I just went through this entire thread, determined to respond at the end . . . God help me, I didn't expect
this question at the end, inlerf!
I think Carrie Bradshaw put this well in
Sex and the City: "Has anyone really enjoyed
69 since 1969?"
...because you EITHER really wanna focus on giving pleasure
to your partner, OR receiving pleasure
from your partner, and not be distracted from one, by the other!
GG
But I am so the least-qualified person to answer the above question! 
Out
A
SATC-originated question:
what actor would play you, in a bio of your life? (actor can be living or dead, at any age)