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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Dumbsaint » Mon May 13, 2002 9:00 am

I'm not sure if it would help the argument, but last night I was thinking about the whole descent of lesbian chic into lesbian cliche thing in film, and I thought of a few movies wherein lesbianism was flirted with in ways that had little or no discernable purpose to the plot or character development other than to have sexy lesbian moments and tie them in thematically with sinister characterization, death, evil, murderers, etc...

Wild Things, Cruel Intentions, and Soul Survivors are the ones that came to mind. I'm sure there are plenty more to draw from. Ooh, there was a movie that came out a few years back that centered around a stalky, boyfriend-of-the-girl-I'm-obsessed-with-killing lesbian, Kate's Addiction. Kind of a B-movie, unlike the others previously listed, which were big studio films. Still, the list really does go on, and on, and on...

Anyone have any good news today? I could sure use a laugh.
Dumbsaint
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby tommo » Mon May 13, 2002 9:06 am

Um, the cat slept on my back last night. She crawled up there and put her little paws around me.

I did happen to say that the cat doesn't care if I'm a lesbian or not. Because she knows I'm capable of love.

Is that good news?
tommo
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Dumbsaint » Mon May 13, 2002 9:09 am

Yes, Ruth. Kitty love is always good news. :)

Thanks.
Dumbsaint
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby xita » Mon May 13, 2002 9:11 am

*curls up to julia.. sighs. Kitty love..
xita
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby tommo » Mon May 13, 2002 9:37 am

I mean, the cat's a fucking bitch at the best of times. But she knows what love is.

Perhaps I should send her to Joss. She's a biter. ;)
tommo
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Dumbsaint » Mon May 13, 2002 9:52 am

*pulls Xita and Ruth into the Bed o' Kitty Love Snuggles*

*sends bite-y cat to Joss*

*sigh* So much better.
Dumbsaint
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Mouseglove » Mon May 13, 2002 10:15 am

Great work, Willowlicious. Even in draft form, this is already a top-notch resource. Looking forward to seeing the finished version.

I have one question about your intentions here. In its final form, is this intended to be an article for general consumption and possible posting on news sites, or more of an academic resource for reference purposes? If its going to be the former, then it will definitely need some trimming. Of course, that kind of editing work is very tricky, especially when you have so much nutritious (and emotionally-charged) content to convey. But it's well worth it because shorter, punchier messages tend to have a stronger and more lasting impact on readers. Especially since theyre more likely to read all the way to the end. Brevity also tends to make prose flow better. If anybody reading this board happens to be a professional editor by trade, they might want to consider volunteering to take a crack at this; it could be a major public service.

But then, If it's meant for reference, then conciseness ceases to be a major issue. In that case, this could become a sort of living document, gradually adding more examples from the media and its real-life impact over time. Naturally you'll want to include some of the additional points contributed by other posters here (Xita's magic=homo=addict=toast equation and Sassette's "queer kids don't usually have queer parents" observation look particularly salient to me).

Or perhaps two different versions could be developed to accomplish two different tasks? It would certainly be better than trying to create a single document to serve both goals. But there's nothing wrong with choosing one purpose and sticking with it; I'm just curious what the goal currently is.

I'd like to raise issue regarding the content. In section 3:

"Compare this to the deaths of straight characters in BtVS - such as Jenny, Angel, Joyce, and Buffy (both times.) Not a single one occurs after a real or implied sexual act. In the cases where sex is even mentioned in passing much earlier in the episode, as with Jenny (who was looking forward to her reconciliation with Giles) and Joyce (who was finally dating again), [b:6118fccab4] there is no consummation;[/b:6118fccab4] the deaths therefore cannot possibly be viscerally felt as punishments for acts performed."
(emphasis mine)

In fact, Joyce's relation with the guy who sent her flowers was indeed consummated. If you recall, Joyce gleefully grossed out her daugher by going into gory details (loved that scene)!

What is important in this case is not so much the events themselves (whether or not sex was had prior to horrible tragic death), as their context. In Joyce's case, we never saw the guy. He was a... sort of a conquest for her. And maybe it's not so for other viewers, but for me the fact that Joyce got well and enjoyably laid the night before she died was a real blessing. It softened the blow for me. Probably didn't do much for the guy when he found out that Joyce died the day after, but we never saw him, so that's not important. What's important is that Joyce was permitted to live a full and satisfying life before she died. The sex was a happy last hurrah, and made it easier to accept her death.

Contrast this with what it was like for W and T and draw your own conclusions.

But the main reason I raise this issue is because if this FAQ does get posted all around the net without changing that "there is no consummation" for Joyce bit, you can bet that naysayers will jump all over it and use it to undermine the credibility of the whole piece. I don't think anybody here wants to see that happen.

Thanks for doing this. Good luck.
Mouseglove
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby kpmuse » Mon May 13, 2002 10:26 am

Are you sure about Joyce having sex right before she died? My impression was that she had a great date out somewhere ie. restaurant.
It didn't seem to me that she had sex with that guy.
kpmuse
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby kyraroc » Mon May 13, 2002 10:33 am

Mouseglove said - "In fact, Joyce's relation with the guy who sent her flowers was indeed consummated. If you recall, Joyce gleefully grossed out her daugher by going into gory details (loved that scene)!"

Hmm. Maybe I was massively misinterpreting that scene when we were writing that part of the FAQ, but I always interpreted that bit to be a joke that Joyce made for the sole purpose of grossing out Buffy, who is well known for her revulsion at the idea of people her mom's age having sex . . . Joyce talks about leaving her bra in the cab, on the dessert table at the restaurant, etc. - so over the top that I didn't think it could possibly be anything but a joke. So I've always believed that to mean that she decidedly *didn't* have sex with the guy - she just wanted to tease her prying daughter.

What do other people think? Was Joyce being at all serious? If I've been wrong all this time, we should certainly change that section a bit.

As to what this is eventually intended to be . . . well, I think it was intended as both a reference to which people curious about or arguing with the existence and relevance of the lesbian cliche could be pointed to (and one that was a bit shorter than "The Celluloid Closet"), and also as a resource that people who wanted to argue in favor of its existence/relevance could repost, e-mail, cut-and-paste pertinent pieces from, link to, or refer to. We were hoping putting it in FAQ form would help the fact that it is indeed rather long - people will in theory eventually able to just hop down to the specific points they're interested in, when it's finally ready to be made into an actual FAQ page (sometime very soon, we hope) It should also be pretty easy to make a shorter version tailored to a specific purpose, just be excerpting relevant sections, should anyone want to do so.

At least, that's the theory.

--- KR
kyraroc
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby AutumnT » Mon May 13, 2002 11:17 am

[quote:37acbd51a7][b:37acbd51a7][i:37acbd51a7]Quote:[/i:37acbd51a7][/b:37acbd51a7]
always interpreted that bit to be a joke that Joyce made for the sole purpose of grossing out Buffy
[/quote:37acbd51a7] Exactly. It was a first date. She was joking. He didn't even walk her to the door.
AutumnT
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Sassette » Mon May 13, 2002 11:22 am

And the 69th post in this thread goes to ... Autumn! Congratulations!

Just thought I'd mention it.

Tra la la

-Sass
Sassette
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby AutumnT » Mon May 13, 2002 11:27 am

What is my prize?

[i:fc9a58b850] leers at Sass[/i:fc9a58b850]
AutumnT
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Mouseglove » Mon May 13, 2002 11:39 am

kyraroc:
Very interesting. I never even considered the idea that Joyce may have been kidding. Something in Kristine Sutherland's performance, maybe.

But you're right, that is a valid interpretation, and I now see where you're coming from on the "not consummated" angle.

Nonetheless, whether she was kidding or not, there will be jerks yelling "Joyce had sex and then died and that singlehandedly disproves the existence of the lesbian clich!" Worse yet, some unfortunate folks are liable to believe it. Bleh. That's always the problem with going against socially accepted "truths", isn't it? The burden of proof rests strictly with you. Yecch.
Mouseglove
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Sassette » Mon May 13, 2002 11:43 am

Heh ... it'll be something special in the AD epilogue, just for you.

-Sass
Sassette
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby AutumnT » Mon May 13, 2002 11:47 am

Joyce arrives from outside, looking very happy.

JOYCE
So who wants to hear everything?

BUFFY
...listen to Mom talk about boys.

GILES
Yes, right! Must go! See you
tomorrow! Good-bye, Joyce.

JOYCE
Bye, Rupert!

Giles exits. Joyce closes the door.

JOYCE
Gosh, I'd forgotten how much fun
dating can be!

BUFFY
I don't know, I was standing right
there. I didn't see Prince
Charming. I didn't see a good-
night kiss. It all looked pretty
tame to me.

Joyce is taking off her coat.

JOYCE
Yes, I suppose by your standards
it would seem pretty-- Oh dear.

BUFFY
What?

JOYCE
I left my bra in his car.

BUFFY
Mother!

JOYCE
I'm joking!

BUFFY
Good God! That's horrible!
Don't do that!

JOYCE
I left it in the restaurant.

Buffy runs up the stairs, hands over her ears.

BUFFY
No more! No more!

JOYCE
(called after)
On the dessert cart!

DAWN enters from the kitchen, licking cookie dough off her fingers.

DAWN
What the heck is going on out here?

JOYCE
I'm just torturing your sister.

DAWN
I'm for it. How was the date?

JOYCE
Good. Really good.

DAWN
You gonna see him again?

JOYCE
You know? I hope so. I think he
had a good time. And what did
you do tonight?

-----
So you really think Joyce had sex from this?
AutumnT
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Willowlicious » Mon May 13, 2002 12:20 pm

I never thought Joyce had sex on that date. Not even close.

Back to editing.

Amy
Willowlicious
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Mouseglove » Mon May 13, 2002 12:34 pm

AutumnT sez:
"So you really think Joyce had sex from this?"

I sure thought so when I saw the ep. Looking at the transcript, I agree it doesn't seem like much. You have to see the way Kristine performs it.

Maybe I wouldn't think so if I watched it again, but my impression at the time was totally unambiguous. Besides, it comforts me to think she got some while she still could. I could be wrong, but I'm probably not the only one.

Which brings me back to the original point. I raised the issue to begin with because I saw the potential for giving ammunition to the naysayers, allowing them to say "Joyce had sex and then died therefore the lesbian clich does not exist". They'll be wrong, but people might listen to them anyway and that's what worries me.

Could be that the solution is to simply mention in brackets that Joyce was obviously kidding about having sex with that guy. That would've kept my mouth shut about the whole matter. ;)
Mouseglove
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Wayne321 » Mon May 13, 2002 1:27 pm

Thanks for the FAQ Willowlicious, its really informative and helpful.

I have just been thinking, when you listed all the gay characters that have been killed and gone evil in BtVS, could Vamp Willow be listed on there? She was dusted when she went back to her reality...
Wayne321
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Epicurus » Mon May 13, 2002 3:06 pm

Huge thanky you to all those involved in making this FAQ. I even learned a bit from reading it. Now if only we could make the folks understand...
Epicurus
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Rosenberg » Mon May 13, 2002 3:14 pm

Amy, I just remembered the film The Fox with Sandy Dennis, Anne Heywood and Kier Dullea. It has one of the great all-time Lesbian cliche endings. Shortly after making love with Ellen (Anne Heywood), Jill (Sandy Dennis) walks outside and has a tree fall on her and crush her to death. Ellen and Paul (Kier Dullea) subsequently walk off together to start their new life. Evil lesbian - dead. Remaining lesbian - saved from her wicked ways by a good man.
Rosenberg
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby xita » Mon May 13, 2002 3:35 pm

oh god the fox :puke
xita
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Rosenberg » Mon May 13, 2002 3:46 pm

Yeah, The Fox. What a classic film. It was the first film I ever saw that had a lesbian theme. It's a wonder I didn't commit suicide after watching it. :puke
Rosenberg
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby xita » Mon May 13, 2002 3:51 pm

I was a teenager when I saw that. I didn't get it. You know? What the hell was the point of that movie, except to say.. lesbians bad, man good. And the greatest thing about that , you know the woman who ran off with the guy, the actress Sandy Dennis, she was a lesbian.
xita
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby dragonfly » Mon May 13, 2002 3:52 pm

ah yes....'saved' by the good man.

(sarcasm *on*)

Of course, we can all take some comfort in knowing that ME wouldn't touch *that* facet of the cliche with a ten foot pole...

(sarcasm *off*)

Metaphorical connotations of Willow's lesbian-sex-metaphor-powers faltering as her childhood male crush approaches her, and her 'evil' black hair and eyes morphing back to normal as she collapses sobbing into his arms, anyone?
dragonfly
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby murph the smurf » Mon May 13, 2002 6:20 pm

For anyone looking for some reading material, amazon.com has used copies of [b:26ccba0d1d] The Celluloid Closet[/b:26ccba0d1d] starting at $6. Definitely worth a look for anyone who hasn't read it but is interested in the topic.

*murph the smurf is in no way affiliated with amazon.com :)

*sigh* hadn't even thought of that [b:26ccba0d1d] dragonfly[/b:26ccba0d1d]. Man, it just keeps getting better doesn't it?
murph the smurf
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby morgan1707 » Mon May 13, 2002 7:37 pm

Excellent work, Kyraroc and Amy! Well done!
morgan1707
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Willowlicious » Mon May 13, 2002 10:56 pm

Okay, everyone. The FAQ has been completely updated and, Kyraroc and I believe, vastly improved. I'm still missing a couple of small dates, but we are clearing it to be distributed as people see fit.

The next mod that drops by--could you please change the title of the FAQ to read UPDATED or FINAL or NEW and IMPROVED or something! Thanks.

I'm going to sleep now.

Amy
Willowlicious
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Solovet » Mon May 13, 2002 11:46 pm

Great job, just a small correction with respect to this bit...
"Of that 2 percent, 92 percent of all gay characters are gay men. That means that lesbians make up only .0016 percent of all characters on TV. "
8% out of 2% is 0.16%, not 0.0016%.
Solovet
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Willowlicious » Tue May 14, 2002 2:10 am

Solovet, that's not a "small correction," that's a major one. Thank you. Lack of sleep, totally missed the obvious.

Amy
Willowlicious
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby WebWarlock » Tue May 14, 2002 3:20 am

Kyraroc and Amy,

Allow me to join everyone here in singing your praises!

I plan to add a copy of this to my Willow/Tara pages on my RPG site, with your kind permissions of course.

Well done!

Warlock
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