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You've been here long enough to know that I am not swayed by threats. Many people have taken their toys and played somewhere else because I would not change our rules. I still believe in the spirit of our FAQ, the entire point here was to weigh in on the feelings of people, to see if I was out of touch. It only reinforced what I already believed in. The discussion is still open because I think it's interesting. This was never about what is right or wrong or what is fair. It was about what people want the kitten and pens to be. It seems like maybe part of the reason this is still going is because of what it stands for. I am kinda happy and proud of that.
Did you feel that I was threatening you in some way? I'm sorry, I certainly didn't intend to. You still believe in the spirit of the FAQ? Are you implying that I don't? Why do I feel like I'm being accused of something? You say the entire point here was to weigh in on the feelings of the people. I was just giving you mine. It happened to disagree with yours, is that a crime? Does that somehow violate the spirit of Willow and Tara? And when exactly did I mention right, wrong, or fair? Okay, so this is about what people want the kitten and pens to be. One, am I not one of those people, just because I happen to be in the minority? Two, I did say that I was disappointed, but perfectly willing to accept the lack of change, didn't I? Where is this attack coming from?
And can I ask people in general where comments like
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instead of whining to the mods to change the rules to fit my purpose, I'd simply post it elsewhere.
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I'm thrilled that so many people still believe in the spirit in our FAQ
came from? I voice a disagreement, and I get these implications thrust at me, from the general public? Am I mistaken? Because this is how it looks to me.
And thank you, Sassette and chance, for that little bit of a back-up, there...
I am not sure where your defensiveness is coming from, so no, I am not sure why you are feeling like you are being accused of anything. I wasn't saying you were threatening me. I was addressing your concern that somehow I was swayed by threats that others were making on this thread. I am not, never have been concerned with that. This is why I quoted a specific part of your post, that was the part I was replying to. I am sorry if that wasn't clear to you. I have no problem whatsoever with your opinion. There are others who have expressed much the same things and that's what I wanted, opinions. No one made me open this thread. I wanted to read. I objected to your accusation that I was somehow running scared because a couple of people threatened to take their fic away. It's not the way I moderate.
And no, I don't run the board like a democracy, I never have. It's not about being in the minority or the majority. When I started this board, it was literally less than 10 people. We needed a place where we could discuss Willow/Tara without having to be defensive about it or homosexuality in general. And I have tried to stay true to that and do right by what I still believe is one of the most beautiful love stories on tv. We have gone through some rough times at the kitten and the FAQ was an effort to keep w/t alive and well. Maybe you weren't here for the full on frontal assault by the buffyverse because we refused to go along with things. Maybe my mods and I shielded you from it because we were deleting machines. Or maybe you remember it, but the rules are still about that, not about what most people want.
You also quoted a comment that I did not make, so I cannot answer to that.
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To address other concerns, am I sorry I opened this thread? Oh hell no. I have seen some names and faces that meant a lot to me and I am happy to see! For that alone, it was worth it personally. The discussion? Fascinating.
When you make a poll, there is an option of how long to leave it open. I did not choose a time period on purpose because I did not know how long it would take me to make up my mind. It only took a day! I did not know what to expect. Would the votes trickle in? Would people feel ambivalent? The questions I had in my head about it were pretty much answered right away. It confirmed what I believed fairly quickly. Should I close this thread now that I made up my mind? I don't believe so. I think I am learning a lot about the board and its members through this process. And it's your chance to air your opinion. I also thought about not saying where my head is but how is that fair when I've made up my mind.
The FAQ is unclear as it is? Hmm... maybe. That's where moderation comes in, I have been thinking about this because it's mostly about what the purpose is and some people have mentioned some fics that have masterfully followed the spirit while toeing the line, but not everyone is as good or as well intentioned. If you set out to break the FAQ, you probably will.
CAM, I wanted to clarify. The part of the faq that I wanted to change was only the bolded part so this ,
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Angst is very welcome but the end result should be the continuation of the W/T couple, which logically means Willow and Tara are alive and together in the end.
would have remained intact and that would preclude the question you had whether w/other or t/other could ride off into the sunset. It also wouldn't have changed the part where w/t were to be the main focus. I also wouldn't have changed the part where you could write w/t/other love scenes.
All moot since I have decided not to, but that was my idea.