by Boschi » Thu May 25, 2006 7:45 pm
Ooph. Umm... a variety of ways. Alcohol (that is neither a confession nor an endorsement), sobbing fits, silence, overwork, obsessions, vague attempts at therapy, walking, a heavy bag (punching bag), my dog, drawing, writing, yet more work, and most especially patience. I don't think it ever goes away, but things change slowly. The ability to think more clearly returned a bit for me - I spent a year feeling completely drained, stupid and slow. I needed a bit of patience to wait that out and to forgive myself for being so foggy and miserable.
I also was fortunate enough to have an old friend to fall back on in the early, intense periods of despair and to discover a couple new friends as I moved in to that change stuff I mentioned before. So yeah, there is my digest of a very non-linear process. Ongoing.
ETA: aargh. Del beat me to that answer, but I like it so I'm leaving it. New answer: Financially successful farmer. Yes, that is unlikely, but you said "dream"...
My questions: Could you be attracted to someone who looks a great deal like yourself, or have you ever looked in the mirror and been attracted to what you see?