Yes, I was 18 and I actually uttered those words the first time I had sex. I was very nervous and was very embarrassed. I wanted complete darkness and secure covers on me, of course that was all forgotten once we started . It was different than I had imagined and I had read enough bad lesbian novels to have at least a good idea of how it went, but it was different, all the senses involved, and I wasn't sure it was better than in the books. But in other ways it was so much better than I would have imagined. There was nothing painful, nothing but love and at the end I didn't feel different. I thought I would and I thought everyone would be able to see it on my face, but that wasn't the case. On the other hand, I finally felt right in my sexuality, I never again had a question about it because I knew that was something that felt right. Of course this woman was also the woman that is still my girlfriend 12 years later.

So how was your first time, be as specific as you want Generally was it all you expected? Or was it a tragic event? A one night stand? etc. Those of you who have had the opportunity with both genders, do you count them separately? I only say that cause I think Willow would think of being with Tara as a first time. I am sure it was Tara's first time.

And I am off to vegas, take care kittens!

Oh aren't we nosey? Hee, what a coincidence that this trip to Vegas should inspire first time talk.

Hello Kittens-

That 12 years is interesting. It's how long my wife and I have been married who was my first and is my only.

And sometimes almost too much for me. Almost .

All I'll say about the first time is trust and mutual concern made it flipping fantastic.


Jixer

hey! wow! 12 years. we're only at 14 monthes. which i think is very good considering my age, and,well, being me. but my first time... it was the best thing that ever happened to me. i was scared..still questioning my sexualty...happy...in love...and...well the only word that comes to mind is...BLISS . me and her are still together,very happy and very much in love.
But that night...there was a thunder storm outside so it would be pitch blackand then lightning light up the room. we were listening to joni michel(sp?)go to love her. I have to say that night put a stop to all questions for me...i knew that i would be with her the rest of my life.
love ya bunches
megan


ps: i love you devon

My first time was with my college boyfriend. I was also his first. I remember asking him to go slowly, and he did. I knew that I was not in love with him, but I also knew that I trusted him. For a first experience, it was wonderful: comfortable, intimate, playful, and, uh, a good time was had by all.

I think I lucked out, in that I'd been raised by parents who put a postive spin on sex, instead of sending the message that sex was sinful or dirty or low-class. I wish my GF had been raised the same way.

It was nothing special; I was in college at the time. I think a good time was had by all. I wasn't crazy in love with the boy, but I don't think that mattered. In fact I kind of preferred it that way; less chance of sentimental attachments about "The First Time". (Yes, I have a history of commitment issues, why do you ask? )

The really, really crappy part? When I broke up with him, he went running to my best friend to cry about me. They ended up getting together and finally got married. I lost my best friend (just out of the awkwardness of the whole situation, not out of anger or jealousy or anything.) Uggghhh!

fuuny thing for me is that i dont remember my first time at all even if she was my gf and i was in love with her. LOL. i know it was nice and all cause i have no negative recollection but... i dunno. i remember all the other times. over sharing but whatever... wanna what's off i remember better the making out (foreplay) and snuggly times than the actual deed time. LOVE kissing and touching.

as for my first time with a boy... . it's only fair women come as many times as the guys. hell, once would have been nice but i dont think he knew how to work me.

my first time was with my ex best friend who was very possessive of me...I didn't relax and just went through the motions because I thought it was what I was supposed to do. And everything she did to me I didn't really respond to anyway, I guess I was too uptight.

It was with my gf of 4.5 years now that I've truly realised how beautiful it is and how GOOD it can really feel.

my first time was nothing special, but good overall, it was my (third time?) that waas absolutely great, I was with a girl who looked kindas like cordelia and I remember her clit was big and felt wonderful in my mouth. the sex felt unbelievable, and as sum1 who has been on prozac it felt better then porzac afterwards, and lasted for several days


ps do you think there was tribadism the first time w/t got together?

How was my first time? Heh.

I was older than a lot of people for a first-timer (25) and I was glad that I waited because it was everything I hoped it would be. We were both kind of nervous, because it was her first time with a woman, but we were sure of what we wanted. November 17th, I still remember that date. We were sitting on the couch, looking through a photo album of hers and our hands kept accidentally touching every time we would turn the page. We finally stopped turning the pages and started caressing one another, and the next thing I knew, we were on the floor in front of the fireplace continuing our exploration. I remember we had a Fleetwood Mac album playing in the background (Tusk), and, to this day, I cant hear Stevie Nicks without thinking about that night.

Ok SHARING!! EVIL!!

I've had sex with both genders and I have to say, sex with guys bored me to tears. There was no passion, it was over in five minutes and there was no give and take. I've felt more passion with women...it was truly "making love" even when you were ready to rip your partner's clothes off.

And as the companion piece to Kieli's...

First time. I was drunk and in High School. And I barely recall it. Honestly. I was drop dead drunk and I am sure I was lousy. It was one of those "let's get this done" things so I could concentrate on actually enjoying sex.

Now the first time I had group sex....opps sorry, that is for tomorrow.

Sex got better in college, and better still in grad school.

Course now I am married (7.5 years) and dated her before that, so it has been 10 years with the same woman and it is still fantastic.

Warlock

Group sex, hmmm? You've been holding out on us, Tim! And here I was thinking that you were a nice boy!

when does the daily thread with infamous preacher's daughter in the title come into play, moof? i mean, you are going to air all your dirty laundry on the board now...

ah well, at least it will be amusing.

nic

How was my first time? Well, if I ever manage to have a first time, I'll let you know.

Hell, I've never even kissed anyone. And I'm 23. So if anyone here is getting the Old Maid Award, it's me.

Don't laugh, but umm, I kinda wanna wait. You know. For the ring and the ceremony and all that crap. (Wait for the sex, not the kissing. Although I'm extremely picky about who I kiss, too. Um. Anyway.) Old-fashioned, yeah, I know. But I don't think I could share that experience with someone unless I had the security of a serious lifelong commitment. It's kind of a big deal for me. So ...... yeah. I'm weird like that.

And now that I've thoroughly embarrassed myself, I'm gonna go hide.

My first time was not like I had ever imagine it to be.

I had been on a camp with a girl that I really liked, and we had been flirting alot. I had liked her for some time and I thought "Well this is it, now I'll finally get her". We were sleeping in tents and her and me were sleeping right next to each other. She moved over and spooned me, while she did a little touching, not much, just rubbing my belly and stuff like that. Well I was in heaven, truely. Then during the night I ended up laying halfway on her. I had no doubts that she was what I wanted, but unfortunately she had doubts about me. After 3 hours of total bliss, she pushed me off her, turned her back to me, and let me lie cold and alone, crying and thinking "I was so close".

We have never talked about it, but for a very very long time she moved away from me when I touched her, and it broke my heart every time.

I think a month after the tent experience, I was at a party. I got drunk, and had my first time with boy...behind a shrub. Not very romantic, I felt nothing but pain. After we had finished, I went back to the party, drank my brains out, and the rest of it is black.

I was so depressed that I couldn't get this girl, that I ended up the way I did. It did make me forget about her for a couple of days....but that's all it did for me.

Sad story...and it only got worse my 2nd time, but that a whole different daily thread...

My first time sucked. It was with a guy who wasn't my boyfriend at the time, I was 16, I had just tried to kill myself 2 days earlier and it hurt.

Then almost 2 years later I had sex (for the second time) with my then-boyfriend who was a virgin, and had a nice enough time, though he didn't do it for me. Ever. For the 2 1/2 years we were together.

My first time with a woman wasn't the first time I'd kissed a woman, so I felt pretty comfortable and it was verrrrrrry nice.

Pips,

You don't have to feel embarrassed. As a matter of fact, you and I share something in common. The age and the fact that I'm a virgin as well, looking for the same things you are.

I have kissed, a couple of my ex-boyfriends when I was going through my denial stage, but I would like to meet that right woman one of these days.

So, Pips, can I share that Old Maid Award with you?

Jen

Aw, Pipsqueak, you didn't embarrass yourself, hon . Greetings from another virgin. I'm waiting... Not for a ring-type commitment per se; I just want the first person I make love to to be the last person I make love to. I'm cheesy, I know . I don't expect it to be a big life-changing moment or anything, that's just how I feel for now. Who knows how I'll feel next week

Elise

I was 18 my first and only time. Fortunately, he was a virgin too. It was good the first time, but it got better. I thought I was going to marry this man, but he ended up marrying someone else. Next time, I am going to make sure we have said the I dos. Nine years later I am celibate and plan on being that way until I get married(or if).

I am pretty sure Tara's first time is with Willow. The experience is new for both of them because it is Willow's first time with a woman and Tara's first time ever. I can imagine what they went through to try to get things right.

huh...and here I thought I was too old to still be a virgin. guess 19's not that bad. I too haven't even kissed anyone so I'm right there with you Pipsqueak. tho for me it's a bit different...I'm not exactly waiting for a ring or a lifelong thing, tho that would be nice. all I really want is to find someone...hmm, well I guess I do want the lifelong thing but I'm sure not gonna wait for the ring to have the sex. heh I just want my first time to mean something, hopeless romantic, I know. ah, she's out there. I just have to get off my butt and go out and find her.

The condom broke.

Dave... Oh dear...

My first time with a guy with memorable, but I wish it hadn't been. Not the good kind of memorable. As in... I really didn't like the guy, a bit of a player and we got drunk and...

My first time with a girl was much different. The good kind of different... She was a virgin and so shy. She wouldn't let me touch her for about 3 weeks after she first... well.. but we got there eventually... It was... nice. very nice. And she did utter those words...

Oh, what a relief!! Pipsqueak, Jennpurr, thrilledbymaclay and babeeliv, can i still join the club? I think the same way as you. I'm also kinda old (23) and i'm still stubbornly waiting for that one special person to come my way for my first everything. First kiss and first everything...
I know it will happen someday, i hope it's going to be soon.
snuggle79

My first time, we were 15, he was my first and only boyfriend and it was not good, maybe because we were too young or maybe he was not a girl. I did not know at that time I am gay. We were together for almost 4 years, but it never worked for me.

My first time with a girl still has to come and I am waiting patiently.


Ruby

I don't really remember my first time, I was around 16 and it was with my girlfriend at the time. We were together on and off since we were about 11 and I never really thought about my sexuality, Plus I'd always been told you couldn't lose your virginity/have real sex with a girl(I had such open minded friends!) so there was no big deal and we were always completely relaxed with each other and it was always fantastic!
With a guy I was 18, drunk and I think I actually fell asleep, that about sums it up lol. I will say it did get a little better.

It's fun to share

Ah well.... first time.... let's see... i had just turned 17 and it was with my best friend/girlfriend at the time. When i think about it now, it seems really quite strange and almost like a really awful low-brow porno. It was after school, in a park, and we were both in our school uniforms. Uh huh....

It was ok... well it was nice because i thought i was in love with her at the time (maybe i was... i dunno... i still haven't figured that out) and i trusted her alot and we definately had a lot of lust between us. Not getting to do the naked snuggly sleep afterwards was a bit annoying, but it got better over time. But i gotta say i never really had mind blowing sex with that girl... i guess that's a minor side-effect of sleeping with straight girls...

Heh, my first time with a girl wasn't anything to write home about. I think I was really too nervous about it all and add to that that it was my best guy friend's girlfriend and it just didnt make for the greatest situation.

The first time making love to a girl on the other hand...God, making love to Jen was mindblowing our first time (and every time after) She was my first love, and a virgin and I swear on everything I was more scared than she was. When she looked into my eyes with those deep deep blue ones of hers and said so innocently "what do I do baby?" I knew I was done for. I made it completely about her that night and I don't think I'd ever felt so sated in my life. It was breathtaking, amazing..you pick the description. But the final blow was her taking my tear wetted face in her hands afterwards and saying for the first time face to face, "Aimee, I love you more than I can say with words." Heh...it was a wow night. *sad nostalgic smile*

well I'm joining the self confessed virgin club. I too am waiting for the right person etc etc. I'm 21. There seem to be a few of us around

wow...this makes for an interesting topic. well, my first time was far from anything spectacular or amazing. I was 17. My then gf and I were at her best guyfriend's house. We started snuggling, touching, one thing leading to another...kicking the guy out of his room...it was just one of those 'let's try this..' moments. We were together for 2 1/2 years...very rocky ending to the relationship. After a while I gave the guys a try (needed to figure out what I really wanted). Well, if I had the patience and didn't need to look at the clock it wouldn't have been so bad. There were nice moments, I admit, but nothing that would have kept me wanting more. I realized that it came down to respect and love, no matter what gender. Thing is, I prefer the touch of another woman.
First time with my current gf? ok, well....I don't know if that was the first time...might have been the second, BUT it was definitely niiicceee. I remember having music (something was playing, my mind was too distracted...) she's straddling me, she's wearing this lovely green Victoria's Secret number and the candle that was lit somewhere behind her made her look like an angel; the glow outlined her body. again , five and a half years later, Valentine's Night, and now I'm the one wearing the Victoria's Secret number while she sets up the ambience with candles all over the room and rose petals leading and covering the bed, champagne bottle with two glasses, a bowl of strawberries and chocolate body paint (funfunfunto be had!!) Needless to say, I'm the one who's glowing now..

(just as a little note, this always made me laugh) grandma always saying how the other old folgies would complain how kids today loose their virginity before they even finish H.S. And I'd say, "Don't worry grams, I'm 17, senior year, still a virgin. Not all the girls are like that." Always gave her comfort..until we came across the conversation again and could only respond with a certain look of deer in headlights, "Don't worry grams, not all the girls are like that."