My new essay: "Willow's Problem: It's Not About The Power"

[Zahir]

"Zahir" is a Turkish name, the masculine of "Zahira" which means "the blooming flower."

Some years ago an ex-girlfriend who was into belly-dancing insisted I give it a try. At last I did, found it a wonderful experience and have continued with it off and on ever since.

Traditionally, one takes a dance name. I took "Zahir" and have been using it as my nom-de-net (sometimes with the patronym "al-Daoud" because my father's name was David). Only about one in ten belly dancers is male (the term "middle eastern dance" is actually more accurate--belly work is a speciality, while "beledi" is a rhythmic style).

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"O let my name be in the Book of Love.
If it be there, I care not of
That other book Above...
Strike it out! Or write it in anew.
But let it be in the Book of Love!"
--Omar Kyam

[Lanfear]

ok, well learn something every day, heh

[Dazey]

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Originally posted by xita:
I know rape isn't about sex. I was countering a common arguement from USEnet. But thanks for the education.

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From the curtness of your reply I'm guessing you were angry or at least annoyed when you made it. If my tone seemed condescending or pedantic, please accept my apologies. I know you are an intelligent woman and it was not my intent to "educate" you. I don't know anything about USEnet or what goes on there. I'm very sorry if I misread your argument.

The important thing to me is, regardless of the terms we use to frame what Willow did, she did not do it with bad or evil intent. That's really the key. She's made some huge mistakes, but there is nothing she has done that is not understandable and wholly forgivable.

Willow has a good and noble heart.quote: