I know a lot of you here are Liancalites, but you can obviously see where this storyline is headed. Lena/Binx/Maggie TRI-ANGLE. In which I think Maggie will win out. If she doesn't what's the point of it all?
This whole thing of Maggie vs. Lena actually gives me a headache to think about it. Why are some viewers angry at/dislike Maggie, but so accepting of Lena? Now before I begin my rant, clearly I'm for BAM (now I am, I wasn't before), so there is no doubt my biased opinion will resonate loud and clear, but I pride myself in looking at grey areas cuz I certainly don't like when people just see *me* in black and white. I have layers too!
I read this thread from the beginning and know that a lot of you were eXXXcited about a BAM pairing. but after the 1/6/03 episode...and the dreaded "I love you Bianca. I really do. But I'm into guys" line - everyone is like "Maggie?? BAH!"
Actually, I think many peeps are open to a triangle because Maggie and her support have made her just as viable as Lena. The only peeps really abrassive that I have seen are fans of Bianca/Lena, a lot of which came in AFTER the kiss and was just into Lianca, and they didn't really see the relationship between Bianca and Maggie before then.
And I think that's why a lot of fans rag on Maggie, because even though she said she's "into guys" she's STILL perceived as a threat to Lena/Bianca relationship. Which means to me, that she could still end up with Bianca's heart - no matter what she said in January. It can still be turned around. Because that 1/6 episode (after everything leading up to it) didn't convince everyone without a shadow of doubt, that Maggie could never be in love with/have a physical attraction to Bianca. And I think a lot of people know that too...
Maggie never said, "I could NEVER love you like that," or "I'm not attracted to you at all," or any of a dozen things she could have said about her feelings for Bianca. In fact she admitted she had feelings for Bianca "intense feelings". Maggie's being "into guys" STILL doesn't answer the question about whether she is "into Bianca". But in Bianca's mind it does, apparently, and if she had not been so quick to say, "That sounds like an answer, not a question," then I think the conversation could have continued. The writers could SO easily bring this up again. And say Maggie was just confused...she was scared of her feelings and she went with (like Maggie always does) "the easy answers".
I still don't understand why so many gay folks are looking at this situation as being so black and white though. I don't know if it's just because they are all about Lena or because Maggie now gets associated with the idea of a bi-curious girl who flirted with someone and then ran back to" boystown". I know a lot of people get their hearts broken that way and and maybe dislike Maggie right now because she seems an embodiment of that kind of stereotype. As in all things soap related (and in real-life), I don't think it's nearly that simple.
And, from a purely selfish standpoint, I'd like to see this kind of story play out in daytime just because it very much the story of A LOT of gay women.
I really think this is a really pivotal and deeply emotional aspect to gay/bi women and in that way there is such wonderful story to be explored here. But unfortunately it also means that a lot of fans are going to polarize over the issue because of those same issues which give it such rich dramatic potential in the first place. I don't think there would be such anger and passion over it if it wasn't really one of the only stories of this type to be told period, let alone in daytime.
It's really irritating with the bashing towards Maggie/Liz, when Liz is trying so hard to make the audience feel that Maggie loves Bianca more than she lets on. It's weird how some Liancalites classify Lena to be lesbian, but Maggie can't ever be gay at all because Lena has already filled the "gay quota", and Maggie would taint the gayness of the show(?).
I've been lurking at other boards and lots of the posts seem to mention that Maggie can't be with Bianca because it would not be realistic. Hello?! Are these REAL gay people??? This is since she has said that she was "into guys" and that she was with Henry and that she mentioned to Henry that she had feelings for Bianca but they were not sexual. Maggie has implied that she was "straight" and that the writers need to remember that. I had feelings for my girlfriend they didn't start out as sexual. The emotional attraction sort of became a catalyst for the later sexual feelings I developed for her. She is my first and only woman (like Maggie I was with one guy before her), and we've been together for almost 5 years. What would you label me as.? Gay, bi, "curious". Or just a woman in love with a woman? Some people say "Love is Love" but do you really believe that?
Maggie is younger than Lena, she still needs time to explore her feelings, and believe me, saying she is "into guys" is not concrete evidence at that age and it doesn't sounds as convincing as "I'm straight and have no romantic feelings for you and never will" which is what the writers could have done to completely squash this. Instead Maggie said she was "confused", "had a lot of questions" (that she never asked by the way), and she skirted the issue for quite a while before saying the dreaded "I'm into guys" line. If it was THAT simple, why didn't she just say that in the first place instead of saying she was confused and didn't know what to make of her and Binx's relationship. During that entire 1/6 conversation, Maggie looked torn. You could say she just didn't want to hurt Bianca or you could say she just didn't have the answers to what Bianca was pushing her for. Or you could say she was just not ready to handle what the answers to those questions were.
And, I do remember a time not too long ago, when Lena was enjoying some time in the sack with a man named Michael Cambias. And it was NOT because she was forced to sleep with him, because of her mother, as some peeps have mentioned. Thank god, McTavish cleared that up on the radio. Lena also mentioned that she has been with other men.
Maggie has given more attention and care to Bianca than any guy she's been with and that's evidence of love to me. I have never met anyone with a "friend" who has shown the same level of devotion and love than Maggie has. If they remain best-friends than it is truly a great relationship. If they become more than friends - then it is also totally believable and VERY realistic. It happens in real life...all the time. People don't just wake up and say "Yay let's be gay today!". Some people really struggle with confusion and denials about their feelings - and who they really are. That's why I want this story to play out this way. If it doesn't, then that's cool too. Leave Binx and Maggie as the bestest of pals.
Yes, Liz gets some crap from the lesbian community, but that may be because they don'tknow how much she wants it...and has been so incredibly vocal. and STILL is. She actually wanted BAM, even said she was a little jealous that Eden and Olga got THE KISS.
YES the Jan 6 episdoe was a cop out by the writers. Always will be. A lot of people love it. I actually did, in terns of acting for Liz and Eden - it was great stuff. But in terms of storyline and history. It sucked.
And it just seems to me that to some people that it doesn't matter one lousy bit all the crap that Lena put Bianca through and the fact that Lena WILLINGLY slept with Michael (and openly flirted with Boyd too) and now Bianca's rape...no matter how utterly selfish Lena can be, it's all good because she's a LESBIAN. It doesn't matter that the s/l is has more holes in it than a piece of swiss cheese or that Bianca and Lena don't know each other very well because some just wanna see two women kissing on their screen. *Blah*
It's like Lena came in (looking to scam and cheat) and Bianca just latched onto the first woman that showed interest - and so did I! I will admit that 2 women kissing on TV got my eyes poppin. But I think that having it be the first lesbian relationship (or sex/kiss: whatever) had me rooting for Lianca. They didnt' have a true connection. And Bianca has forgiven Lena more times than I care to remember now. It did make Bianca seem rather desperate for a lover. And maybe she is/was.
Lena can be laughing and scheming in bed with Michael Cambias, plotting the overthrow of Erica's company, lying to Bianca, etc., but because she says she "laaahvs" women, then suddenly she's the love of Bianca's life???!! Meanwhile Maggie has never lied to Bianca, never betrayed her trust, has DEMONSTRATED her love for Bianca over and over and over again (not just verbalizing it), but because SHE said she is "into guys", (and surely slept with fewer men than Lena) well now she's just WRONG.
Everything about how Lianca was written was to make the audience feel good for Bianca, because she wasn't getting jilted by 'straighteys' anymore. But I guess Bianca has done a lot of waiting and when Lena came along it was like "This one MUSTbe right since she approached ME." Not only did they have Bianca rush into this relationship because she was so damn desperate for love, but they also sleep with each other in the span of TWO WEEKS on the show, not PV time. That's NOT the Bianca we know. That's NOT the Bianca that we care about. It actually made me dislike Bianca a teeny bit. She wants romance, and this was the easiest route to it. There was no build-up, so it made Bianca seem easy. I really didn't like that. If it's a gay stereotype people want to fight, there's one right there, with the quick jumping into bed and having sex and the rings (can we say "U-Haul Syndrome?) That all happened faster than you can say affidavit.
I was 50/50 on either BAM or Lianca. But I'm definitely on the side of BAM cuz now that I think about it - Maggie and Bianca would have a more believable relationship - a REAL deep-seeded relationship that would last. There was build up...connection..growth...unconditional love...not to mention - time. They fought, they apologized...they had tension, longing looks and sentimental moments. They had all the makings of the start of a super-soap-couple. And still could be if they take it that route.
If viewers are so accepting of Lena as "Bianca's soulmate" have they not taken into account that Lena has done what Maggie has? Maggie goes and sleeps with one guy and viewers are like, 'oh she'll only hurt Bianca'. Hello! And Lena has been a gayly saint this entire time?
I mean you cannot deny they have seen a relationship grow between BAM and a very intimate one at that. Ok, sure, there was no wild hot monkey sex, but they just take one look at each other and we know they're loving each other.
People who say "Love is love" are absolutely right! We tend to see what we want to see, some see Lianca, some see BAM and some even see it's-a-phase.
But I see that the HUGE Lianca/Olga-Eden lesbian fanbase would have been a huge BAM/Liz-Eden lesbian fan base had Bianca and Maggie had the first on-screen kiss!
I mean you guys remember all the controversy that came about when Willow - who was attracted to all kinds of guys, was in love with Xander and had sex with Oz...just "switched" her sexuality and became intimate with Tara. Now how realistic is that? Just because you start out "into guys" doesn't mean it stays that way and vice-versa. Nothing's set in stone. It's not that much of a stretch to have Maggie realize that she really, truly does love Biance THAT WAY now is it?
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Damn this was a looong post. Sorry...but I think I made my point. LOL!!