Your first "i love you "

[Auriam]

Hello kittens !

I'm sorry if this topic has already been write

There are topics like 'your first kiss or cruch ..'

And i would like to read some first i love you

When you really did mean it and when you didn't.

[JujuDeRoussie]

Hello!!

So my first 'I love you'... it was for a woman 11 years older than me, but I really meant it. It was in a leter cause I hadn't seen her in 7 years, we just kept contact by mail. Then she gave me her cell phone and I let a long message on it with a 'I love you'... but when I was in front of her I was to shy, and also I knew she loved me like a friend and like the kid I was when first we met. Anyway, it was my first and it really scared me.

The first 'I love you' i didn't meant was the last I said... To my ex. I don't know how it came, it was our first date as girlfriends, but I loved someone else (I know it's baaad, but hey she also loved another girl), and when I said it I was thinking about that other girl who just broke my heart...

Is that what you wanted?

Julia

[dlline]

August 24, 1984... I do remember it well.

The morning after the first time I ever "slept" with another woman. I guess she really liked me. We spent the next year together, until the United States Air Force found out about me a tossed me rather unceremoniously from their ranks. Then I was a total shit and dumped her for her best friend. She has since forgiven me, but I still feel really bad about it.

Did I mention that I was a total shit? You might want to write that down.

[gorn]

I don't recall the first time I really said it; I think I said it a lot when I was young. I don't even remember the first time I said it and really meant it ...

I do, however, remember the first time someone said it to me. Completely melted my heart. My heart admittedly has always melted rather easily, but there is a power in those three words that - once you've heard it yourself - is undeniable.

On a side note, I find it interesting that the first two posters on this thread are both French. Very romantic!

[StaceAngel]

Hmm... the first time i said it to someone was when i was 15.. heh.. but after we ended i figured it was more infatuation. Being in love now i realise that but at the time, i thought it was real..




Stace xXx

[Willowtree252]

The first time was when I was 15 and I still think about her and wonder were she is mmmmm Jennie

[Emms]

The first time I said I love you to anyone, it was to my wife, eight years ago. And I mean it today as much as I meant it then.

xoxo
Emms

[Alicepire]

amusingly, mine was today, to my rather wonderful girlfriend (of one month. my first actual girlfriend... not that we're moving faster than we probably ought). I didn't mean to say it.. I had planned to discover more certainly if she felt the same way.. But I have this rather annoying habbit of saying whatever I'm thinking... and it sorta came out in a babble which I think was something like: "I sorta have a confession to make but I don't wanna say it cos I don't want to freak you out so I won't say it, but I have to say it because what if the flight route is changed overnight and a plane falls on the building and we die? I think I'm falling in love with you.. well I have.. But I don't want to say it in case you reject me.. but I think I did just say it so I'm gonna be quiet now and pretend nothing happened..."
and she sorta stared at me blankly for a few minutes (I think she was trying to work out what I said), kissed me and then said "thank god you said it first, I've been trying to slip 'I love you' into a conversation all afternoon"
And since then I've said it rather a lot and she's mumbled it a few times..
eeeee the only thing I think that could make me happier right now was if I didn't have a severe case of tonsilitus... However when she's around I seem to forget the intense pain... love makes you do the whacky

[tazraven]

My first romantic "I love you" was to my girlfriend 4 and a half years ago. I love her more every day =)

~Sara

[Auriam]

I have never been in love maybe some day.
And i crush on people often, when i did i just tell them i like them a lot.
I already told people 'i love you' but i never meant it, or only with my family and friend who i know for so much time that they are like my family now.

The only person i ever told 'I love you ' were i first reel girlfriend and i told her that cause i didn't want to hurt her when she told me that she loves me.

[summer fairy]

I can't remember my first I love you, I hate saying it because 9 out of 10 times I don't mean it. I mean it when I say to Sazki though and I say it a lot to her.

[kivrin]

the first time I wanted to say it it was really true, but I never said it to him 'cause we were best friends and you know the "well-known story of best friends" then came the first time I said it and it was true that I love that other guy but...I still think I wasn't in love.
we were together for 8 months or so and I just said it twice. I provably liked him and loved him 'cause he was so kind with me and careful...but it wasn't really love.
then came this awesome girl I'm dating....who I told I loved her the first time we met and I meant it as friends...not very much later I realized I loved her as a friend as a lover as whatever...as everything possible and since then I may have said it....I dunno..10000000000000 times or so.

[Shai]

Mmm....the first time I actually told someone that I loved them romantically was desperate really! I was doing "stuff" with this girl, who wasn't sure she was gay. Then about a month later she said that we needed to end it, and I was hopelessly in love with her by then, so I told her "I know you might not feel the same way, but I need you to know that I'm in love with you..." She looked at me, smiled and then we were together for the next 2 years...after which she broke my heart and told people that I was a psycho lesbian who had lied to people about her having dated me! I hope she's happy in the closet! *grins*

[Auriam]

Thank you for yours reply kittens

i told someone 'i love you' by a phone and i really mean it !

I think that telling someone that by phone is much easyier that when you are in front the person.
Cause when you are in front the other girl she cans see in your eye the love you feel for her without telling nothing.

[summer fairy]

The real question is, do they love you back? Or is it just wishfull thinking?

[CrazyTaraWitch]

my first (and only so far) romantic "i love you" was in a note to my straight best friend who i'd been in love with for nearly three years, when i finally decided i had to clear the air and tell her the 'secret' i'd been keeping for so long, though it turned out she'd already guessed my feelings. i also felt like i was in love with my first girlfriend, but never said it; now i'm not sure if i really did love her, or just wanted to be in love with someone other than my straight best friend so much that i convinced myself i loved her.

[JujuDeRoussie]

The real question is, do they love you back? Or is it just wishfull thinking?

no this isn't the question here... here it's just telling the first.... it doesn't matter if they love you back

[Alcy]

It was to my girlfriend, we've been together for two and a half years now. I can't actually remember how long we'd been going out when I said it for the first time but I do remember it just felt like the right time to say it.
It just sort of slips out everyday now, I try and make a point of saying it (although in our typical fashion we've abbreviated it to 'wubbu', sounds silly I know!)

[writerfreak]

My first I love you. My god I feel old even though I'm still very young, it was about 15 years ago. I was 7 years old. I'd known Addie for about a year, and we were the best of friends, and I was as helplessly in love with her as a 7 year old could be. She was my first love, and I meant it with everything I had when I told her, and I still mean it. However she died 5 years later. My first I love you with my current girlfriend, it actually happened rather quickly, even though she and I aren't going quickly that part did. We had known each other about two months, been together about one. It was oddly cute, through an instant message where we were talking about a no comment she left on a Myspace survey, and it took her a long time but she finally said "I wanted to say I love you" and I told her I loved her to, and I meant it. I mean it more and more everyday.

writerfreak

[Sapphire eyes]

I didn't say I love you to my ex for the longest time, because I think that the words " I love you" are used to often without people really understanding what they are saying. Love embodies so many different things and I think that people say "I love you" too easily sometimes, not always but sometimes. When I say it to my family members or to my animals I really mean it but other than that I doubt I will tell anyone "I love you" again for the longest time for fear of not living up to the expectation of what love actually is. People can think they love someone when they really don't and people can fall in and out of love as quickly as they change their clothes so unless my future partner means it I would rather it not be said to me and I would rather not say it to them.

[Justified12]

Hmmm ...When I was about 13, I told this one girl (who was two years older than me) over msn, that I loved her... I DEFINITELY did not love her...something which i soon realized... i was hopelessly infatuated with her and the idea of her... but i didn't love her....

Then a few months later, once again over the evil msn, I told another girl that I loved her... she had told me that she'd liked me a while before... something which later turned out to be complicated lie that she concocted as a way of comforting me or making me feel better about myself or some crap like that... i know now she was just playing with me... she was a strange person... and once again, I was infatuated with the idea of what she could be... i didn't love her.

When I was 15, I met a beautiful, wonderful girl... although really, she'd been around for years, i'd never talked to her. She walked into my classroom on the first day of school for that year, sat next to me and we were best friends in a matter of weeks. She told me later she liked me, we kissed, we became 'girlfriends'... a few days after, we were lying on her bed and we had a very movie-like moment... she said "I want to say something." I asked "What?" after some hesitation she replied "Three words."... My heart stopped. She noticed my nerves and asked "What?"... I summoned all my courage and said "I'm waiting for you to say it so I can say it back." She smiled and said "I love you." to which i swooned and began shaking... it took me so long to tell her "I love you so much." I meant it more than anything I've ever said in my life.
We were together for almost two years... a few weeks ago she broke up with me... but I'm not sure what will happen with us... I know she still loves me... I hope for the best

Justified xo

[Lifty]

Hey justified! I hope everything works out:) sounds like it was tough for both of you. You have my support!
lifty

[Justified12]

Thanks Lifty. Much appreciated. : )

[rumble_bubbles]

Justified12, that is probably one of the most romantic things I have ever heard. Soooo sweet.

The first time I told someone I loved them and meant it? (We used to get "married" during recess in elementary school... We just thought it was something boys and girls did, and we wanted to feel older, I guess. That, or there was a desperate lack of schoolyard toys at my school.) This guy I dated when I was 15. We were together for almost two years, until I realized he was an abusive bumhole, since I don't know how strong the language I'm allowed to use on this board is supposed to be. But yes, I did love him. Well, I didn't trust him, so my friends say that doesn't count as love, but I think I loved him. I told him I did, anyway. Of course, he told me he loved me too, and he really, really didn't, so what does that tell you? He he. Oh well. Wish my story was more romantic, but whatever... the "I love you"s to come won't mean any less just because they're not my first

[ellbogen]

Justified, that was a very romantic moment you shared with us. I hope it works out with you two.

The first 'I love you' I said and meant (I might have said it to a quasi-boyfriend before - I don't remember...) was with my first girlfriend when I was 25 (late bloomer). I don't remember exactly when I said it, but I know I did and definitely meant it. We were together for a summer, but I had to move for school at the end of it, and we ended up breaking up due to distance. However, that summer remains one of the most wonderful times of my life. I got to experience all the crazy in-love feelings that most people have when they're 17 or so. It was neat to experience them as a mostly-adult.

But that was a while back. I have a partner now, and we have been together for 5 years. The first time we went out on a 'date,' we went on a picnic to the park with my dog and watched a concert. I don't remember the concert... We really hit it off, and well, I didn't want her to go home that night. I told her I'd be sad if she didn't stay with me. I was in a new apartment, and all of my furniture was in storage - I mean, that would've been depressing, right? We ended up camping out on my living room floor with my sleeping bag and random blankets... what can I say? I'm easy ... The date ended up lasting around 4 days. Friends would call and ask how the date was, and we'd say 'still on it -bye!' LOL

...anyway, so she finally had to work, and I had to get my furniture out of storage, so eventually the date had to end, which was very sappy and 'parting is such sweet sorrow.' It was clear that we were falling for one another. So sometime soon after that, she had spent the night with me again after I had furniture, and we were just waking up in the morning and talking, and all of a sudden she got really quiet and whispered something. She speaks several languages and had whispered "I love you" in Russian thinking I wouldn't understand. I said, "Guess what, I've had a year of Russian. I know what you just said." I told her I loved her too.

That was 2002, and we're still together, so I guess it was true