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Needing a little advice

Postby quirked_out » Tue Sep 26, 2006 9:09 pm

Hi guys, I'm an author for those of you who don't really remember. I started a story but I had to stop due to some extreme things going on.

When I was 14 I discovered my sexuality, I was going through drastic changes and I cut my long hair into a mohawk, that was when my mom started asking questions.

She said to me point-blank that she would disown me if I were gay. I denied it again and again to her and eventually to myself. I had a girl but it didn't work out, not anything on her part, she was amazing and patient.

A part of me hasn't reconciled with the fact that my mom hates such a major part of who I am. I'm still in the closet with my family and the frustration I feel with them is affecting me. I'm being horrible to my friends, at least the ones I haven't come out to and that not right.

My mom is very-much old-country. She was raised a devout Catholic and refuses that any relationship between me and another woman can be anything but sin.

Any advice on how to deal would be seriously helpful.
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Re: Needing a little advice

Postby river » Wed Sep 27, 2006 5:53 am

yes i know the problem ;) my dad is like your mom. He hates homosexuell people .
And i moved out into another city. far awy from my parents. so i can be like i want it too. and thats great!! you can be free. and your parents will notice after some time , that you are a wonderful person, and it doesnt matter if your gay or not!
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Re: Needing a little advice

Postby NewRuthRising » Wed Sep 27, 2006 6:55 am

I also went through the Catholic situation. I spent three days reading the Bible, went to confession, the whole shebang. My strategy for Catholic homophobia is to point out that Jesus told us to love one another no matter what. It's up to God to decide whether it's right or wrong, not them. Ask her which would make God happier: loving someone or hating them?

The most important thing is that you be at peace with God as yourself. After all, what kind of God would punish someone for being who they are?

Also, you might remind her that heterosexual wedding vows take their inspiration from the book of Ruth...and were originally a promise between two women.
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