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where did you meet your girl??

Postby LostInEcstasy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:25 am

Hi all. I'm a newbie on the board. Well, I've actually been lurking for awhile but I've only started posting today. I'm also a newbie to the idea that I really might be gay. I've been doing the back and forth "am I or aren't I?" thing in my head for quite some time but lately I've definitely started leaning towards the side where I get to smooch girls... ahhh girl-on-girl action... :drool Sorry I drifted off there for a minute.



Anyway, my question is this, where would a newbie lesbian such as myself, with absolutely no gaydar, go to meet other girls? Where did you guys meet your sweeties?



I'm starting college next year so I'm hoping I'll be as lucky as Willow and my Tara will just appear in my life, but since that just seems too good to be true, I'd really appreciate your advice.



Thanks kittens!!! :D

LostInEcstasy
 


Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Jennifer » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:39 am

*coughcough* on-line *coughcough*. What? It works. Welcome to the board, LostInEcstasy.

Willow made a small fist and waved it at her (Tara), and the 2 grinned in that secret knowing way lovers ever did. It amazed him now, looking back upon it, that he had not realized sooner that Willow and Tara were more than merely friends. -Giles, "The Wisdom of War" Willow and Tara's Love
|| Jennifer's Journal

Edited by: Jennifer  at: 7/29/02 11:40:54 pm
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Lindy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:42 am

Hee, yeah, it obviously does :shy

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It's nothing. It's all.. nothing

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby xita » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:47 am

*raises her eyebrow suspiciously ;)

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Edited by: xita  at: 8/24/02 10:40:38 pm
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby mscheckmate » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:54 am

My gf and I were fixed up.



A colleague of mine had an extra ticket to a baseball game. She knew that I loved baseball, but didn't know for sure that I was single. Or even that I was gay. But, just in case I was single and gay, she gave one of the other tickets to a friend of hers who had recently bid goodbye to The Girlfriend From Hell. Then, my colleague and her gf prayed fervently that Rebound Woman and I would hit it off.



We did. I thought she was really nice, but too old. And totally not my type. She thought I was cute, but too young. And definitely not her type. So, we didn't date right away. But we kept running into each other. And she kept flirting. I'm flirt-challenged, but I think she knew that I liked her.



We had our first "this is not a date," on New Year's Eve, 1997. And we're still together.





Xander: "Tara, nice axing." Tara: "My first."

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Lindy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:58 am

Raising an eyebrow? At me? Oh it's boring really. Well, actually it isn't, heh. ;)



Some of the stories about people who met online and are happy together now really make my heart melt. Some of them I've read here, it's so nice to see that things can work out. I hope it will work out for both of of, too, because she lives all around the globe and it's driving me mad; especially since we are both broke. But I've never met a person in my whole life who is able to take my breath away like she does.



So, I hope we will be able to meet in person soon *sigh*



We know each other for one and a half years now and it's always just wow. We spent a lot of time figuring things out for each other, but in the end it always just leads to one point.. friendship's not enough, really not.

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It's nothing. It's all.. nothing

Edited by: Lindy  at: 7/30/02 12:00:37 am
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby TwiLightJoy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:05 am

Um, I met my girl in a Xena chat room .... It's worked out quite well for us, we clicked as friends and it was actually about 6 or 7 months before it was anything more than that. So we finally worked up the nerve to tell each other how we felt, arranged to met in person (kinda tricky when we lived 3000 miles apart), and I saved up and moved out to be with her, and here we are.



All the previous girls I dated I met either in high school or college. The high school ones (2) were very very short term, non-serious summer fling type deals, and out of the 2 in college one was short term and the other I am still very close with, she is one of my best friends but we didn't work as a couple. *shrug*



So there's my story, much shorter than I usually end up with so count your blessings there. ;)



~Joy

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby wiltar » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:23 am

I met my gf here on the kitten. We haven't been able to meet in rl yet (yes, also that different sides of the globe-thing, and we too don't have the money yet :( ) but we really hope that we can meet each other in rl soon. We've been chatting for about a year or so. We started out becoming friends, but after a while our chats started becoming pretty 'flirtious'... I started falling in love with her but thought that it could never work out. First of all, I didn't know if she would feel the same way about me. And even if she did, not everyone dares to take the 'risk' of starting a relationship with someone from the internet, let alone someone who lives on the other side of the ocean.



That was until 3,5 months ago. On a saturdaynight (for me, that was) we've been chatting all night, pretty intense stuff. The day after that I just couldn't get it out of my mind and I really really knew for sure that I had fallen soooooooo much in love with Liliana and that nothing could stop me. The next day we started out our chat 'normally'. At some point though it turned intense again, and we both kinda started giving hints to the other one. Liliana was the brave one though. She told me that, even though it was all kinda weird and confusing, she had fallen in love with me. Wow. Best moment of my life. It turned out we both had been crushing on each other for quite some time.



April 14th was the day we got together, and even though it's not that long ago, I feel like we really have something beautiful that no one is gonna take away from us. Distance be damned. I really love her very much and I am very happy with her. It sucks that we can't be physically together, but I know that we will meet, and that we're both gonna try to make this relationship totally work. It's amazing that you can get feelings for someone in this way, but it's great. I've never been happier.



So, hereby also taking the chance to say: Liliana, I love you!



Patricia

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W-what were they looking at?


-The hotness of you doofus!!!



Edited by: wiltar  at: 7/30/02 12:25:17 am
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Amymlc » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:27 am

oooh... a chance to talk about my how my girlfriend and I met...yeah!! hehe



Well, I have actually known my GF since we were 8 and 9 and in the same cabin at a summer camp. We were friends until I was about thirteen and she was fourteen, we were put in different cabins and she thought I was a dork because I was in the "little girl" cabin...anyway, after that we never spoke anymore (yeah..stupid kiddy grudges) until the summer I was 18 (uh..two summers ago), I was a counselor at the same camp and she came back to work that summer too. She didn't remember who I was, but I remembered who she was and was uh...not really too happy about sharing a the same four hundred acres with her. Anyway, we were paired together as the counselors for the horse camp pre teen girls. We started spending time together and became friends again, but she still didn't know who I was until I showed her some of my pictures from when we were campers and she said "oh my god, that's you? We aren't supposed to be friends anymore" or something like that.



After that we started spending so much time together that everyone started asking if were a couple...well, I was like uh...a little freaked out by that, and she had a bf...anyway after camp was over we both went to our colleges...about two hours apart. We ended up spending every weekend together and then officially became a couple after this one weekend up at my school. We were walking near this man-made lake at my school and there were all these couples making out....we were like, lets pretend to make out just to freak people out. So we sat down on a bench near the water, where everyone could see us. We were pretending to make out when our lips actually met and then we pulled back really quickly then we just kinda leaned back in and started really kissing. I have never been kissed like the way she kisses me. Before her, kissing was just kinda gross to me...I mean think about..you are like swallowing someone elses spit and plaque and stuff, but, but when she kisses me its like time freezes and nothing else matters. *swoon* :) That was two years ago and she is the love of my life!! So not only is my gf the love of my life, but also the best friend I have ever had. *sigh* *cheesy grin* okay I will stop gushing now! :D Thanks for letting me share my boring story!

They were right, I'm a homo--But I'm a Cheerleader

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby maudmac » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:31 am

Interesting, all the online stuff.



I met mine in a chat room, too. We got each other's jokes. Started IMing a lot. Then talking on the phone. Pretty soon, we knew we had to be together. The 4000 miles between us was something of a barrier. But we were going insane not being able to be together, so we took a deep breath and jumped in feet first.



That was six and half years ago. So, yeah, it can definitely work. :grin

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby theatremouse » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:33 am

mmm.... i have this tendency for falling for costars.... i'm an actor btw. mmm....girls in plays..girls i cast in movies i make....i'm actually only referring to two people....and i actually cast the one in the movie because of the having fallen for her already..... 'eh, ah well. that probly wasn't helpful was it? humbug. where your passions lie, find people of the same.



peace.



edited for the grumbliest of typos.

Willow: It's horrible! That's me as a vampire? I'm so evil and... skanky. And I think I'm kinda gay.

Edited by: theatremouse at: 7/30/02 7:51:38 am
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby TaraManiac » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:44 am

Nice Topic! :) Well I Met My Girl here on the Kitten *looking above in this same thread* and Is one of the things that makes this board so special to me. We have an Online Relationship so far coz we Live far away from each other, which doesn't mean we don't want to be together for real, she already told the beginning of our story here I wanna add a few things, It's hard having a Gf this Way but it's not Imposible, I know Some people might think it's Crazy and things will never work out, but i have something and that's Faith and Love in my Heart that makes me be hopeful about This... i know I want to be with her and I will :) The world is not that big to keeping us apart ;) . *sigh* I'm Melancholy :love



Anyways, Good Luck finding a girL for You LostInEcstasy !



Said That , I think That's It... I Love You Patricia, U're My world Baby :love



-Liliana-



She's My Everything...

Willow-Tough Love

Edited by: TaraManiac at: 7/30/02 12:48:10 am
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Awwwww...

Postby LostInEcstasy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:49 am

Your stories are making my heart go all melty. They are so sweet (and definitely not boring, Amymlc). You guys have no idea how much hearing your happy endings means to me. They give me just that much more hope that I'll eventually find someone. I mean, Willow and Tara are totally inspirational but it's nice to see some real life tales of girly love :love



Keep 'em coming!!

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Lindy » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:52 am

Aw, your story just sounds so cute Liliana and Patricia.. and it really reminds me of my own, although no Kitten baord was involved here.



I hope you guys make it work and will be able to meet soon, soon, sooner :) Best wishes. Good to know I'm not alone ;)

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It's nothing. It's all.. nothing

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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby wiltar » Tue Jul 30, 2002 2:06 am

Lindy Thank you very much for your encouraging words and best wishes, also on behalf of Liliana.



We wish you and your girl the best too, hope you get to meet very soon as well!



Patricia (and Liliana of course! :D )

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W-what were they looking at?


-The hotness of you doofus!!!



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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby Krystin » Tue Jul 30, 2002 3:06 am

Wow it's been a long time since I've checked in with y'all on the board. Love the topic by the way.



I met my girlfriend nearly 6 years ago, both 19 and Sophmores in college. I had just broken up with the guy I had been dating for a while, and my best friend, knowing the 'real reason' why I had ended things decided that she would find me a 'lesbian friend.' It turned out that her roommates high school friend (also in college with us), that was gay. So, they invite her to dinner and me to dinner, she knew that I was coming, but I didn't have a clue who she was or even that she was going to be there. The moment that I saw her, I was like 'wow, she's really pretty' and then we talked for a while and I was like 'wow, she's really smart,' and by the end of the evening I thought, I really want to see her again.



So, in the true nature of first relationships, we dated for a few months and then I broke up with her. Knowing that it was the wrong thing to do, but being with her scared the shit out of me. My ultra-conservative southern parents were just not going to understand how their 19 year old daughter fell in love with a woman. To make a long story short, after not speaking for a year and a half, I ran into her one day and we started talking again... on and off for like 3 years. I knew all along that I was in love with her, there was no way around it. I don't think that I realized that she loved me until, September 11th, when I told her that I was going to church because I couldn't stay at home and wait to find out if my uncle made it out of the pentagon or not (he did.) I didn't ask her to come, but about halfway through the noon service, I felt a hand on my shoulder and I turned to see her standing there. You would have to understand, she's not a religous person, she came for me, because she knew me so well that she knew that I would never tell someone that I needed help.



It took me a few weeks to tell her that I was in love with her, but luckily she felt the same way. I don't know if I believe in your "one true love." But, I will say this, in 6 years, my love never waned, it continued to grow with each passing day. When we look at each other, I know... I just know.

Krystin
 


*sniff sniff*

Postby Arwen » Tue Jul 30, 2002 6:35 am

Awwwwwwwwwwww...... :-)

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Re: *sniff sniff*

Postby ninjitsugrrl » Tue Jul 30, 2002 7:06 am

LostInEcstacy - When you start college, check into whether or not your school has any sort of GLBT group. Most larger schools do and it is a great way to make friends and meet people!

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between the regions of kindness.." - Naomi Shihab Nye



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Re: *sniff sniff*

Postby friskylez » Tue Jul 30, 2002 7:50 am

Whats a girlfriend :lol :lol :lol Just kidding i had one or two of those ohhhhhhhhhhhh about 10 years ago :lol



I met the very first woman i fell in love with at a local bar in Monterey CA...I was sitting at the bar and she sat down next to me, i swiveled my bar stool around to watch the folks playing pool and our legs touched..



There was an electrical spark (not literally :lol ) and we just kind of looked at each other and grinned...Nothing happened that nite..The next time we were in the bar at the same time, she followed me into the bathroom and planted one of the best kisses i have ever had on me :love ...



I met my next girlfriend at work, i couldnt get up the nerve to ask her out and kept hemming and hawing and when i finally did, i had a romantic date planned...We went on one of those bay cruises at sunset and talked for quite some time...We went out later to some of the local spots, afterwards she spent the nite :)

She moved in with me 2 days later and we spent the next three years together :grin

"Middle age is when you have two choices and you choose the one that gets you home early"

Edited by: friskylez  at: 7/30/02 7:02:25 am
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Meeting the girlfriend..

Postby oneinten » Tue Jul 30, 2002 8:04 am

I love this topic! It's always great to hear how people met. I'm also thinking the Kitten Board is the place to be...



Well I officially first met my girlfriend in PEI's Gay and Lesbian discussion group. It was the first month I was on the Island and I was determined to finally be out. So I went to the group just to meet friends and see what the scene was like. I was checking out this other girl in the group and didn't really notice the pretty girl next to me too much. Turns out she was checking me out (I didn't notice) but also thought I was in the wrong group (I'm Asian and she thought I was a lost tourist...) so she didn't say much. By the end of the meeting she realized I wasn't lost and asked me to play pool with the group. I couldn't and left. As fate had it we met again at a Gay dance at the end of the month. Since I recognized her from the group previously I hung out with her all night and we talked and danced and hit it off. Now 6 years later it's history and I'm mated for life (well pretty much.)



The neat thing is that the day I went to the group it was actually the last meeting ever (the group disbanded) and if I hadn't gone I probably would never have met my girlfriend right away. I may have cycled through some people and same with her but it could have taken us quite awhile to hook up finally. I'm all with the lovin' as soon as possible!



So a hint LostInEcstasy: sometimes going to these discussion groups (especially in college) can lead you to great friends and maybe a girlfriend. You're basically are sure these people are gay or gay friendly and you wont have to waste time with is she/isn't she? questions (well if that bothers you).



Anyways, that's my two cents. Being at that group was the best thing that happened to me and the rest is just gravy.



kath

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Re: *sniff sniff*

Postby Dumbsaint » Tue Jul 30, 2002 8:07 am

Heh. I met my girlfriend online, too. But lemme say, as a disclaimer, meeting online has some crater-sized pitfalls, in my experience. In fact, I met several girls who I had various forms of relationships with (*cough*formercyberslut*coughcough*) before I met Jerri, pretty much all of whom turned out to be nothing like I thought they were after talking to them online for months, even years in one instance. Which is why when Jerri first answered my online ad I pretty much blew her off after talking to her for only a few weeks. I was six months out of my last miserably failed online/long distance relationship, and totally and utterly burnt on the idea of romance, particularly the met-online variety. At that point I was only keeping my goofy ad up in the hopes of ensnaring people to read my website. But then here came this sweet, shy girl, this persistent girl, who I really thought I just might end up liking. So of course, I ran like hell. A year later, after starting to get my crap together a bit, I decided I was ready to test the waters again. And so I put up yet another goofy online ad on a different web service, all the while thinking, "I'm such a dolt for losing that girl's email. She was nice. *sigh* " Do you know how hard it is to find a NICE girl in southern California? Xita aside. Heehee. At any rate, I put up the damned thing, and...



Guess who was the third person to respond to my new ad that very evening? :love



See, I'm dumb when it comes to emotions and relationships and all that kind of stuff. Life stuff. You know. And sometimes the universe has to seriously hit me over the head with a roadsign to get my attention.



I think one of the reasons why it worked this time around, online relationship-wise, is that we really DIDN'T have an online relationship. We met online, talked for a month... didn't talk for a year... started talking online again for a week, and then met in person and got to know each other in the flesh. Granted, we lived ten minutes away from each other and had that opportunity. I really think that it's hard, if not impossible, to get to know someone in an intimate capacity through this box. Friends are one thing, but to find someone you're compatible with as a lover, as a companion... that's a whole different potato. Maybe it's just me. I'm really interested in other people's take on online romance. Care to get subtopic-y?



I got lucky, and I know a few other people who have, too. I wanna hear more takes on this...

"It's not real. I mean, there are no vampires, there are no witches. Well, there are Wiccans, but they're not making out with Alyson, so..." -Amber Benson

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Re: *sniff sniff*

Postby lucifuge25 » Tue Jul 30, 2002 8:30 am

I met two of my girlfriends in school and the following two at dance clubs. Two and a half years ago I was feeling burnt out on the whole 'let me see if I meet someone who catches my fancy while I dance to a Britpop song" thing.

I opted to look around dating websites in hopes that I would find that interesting chick who could amaze me beyond belief. In truth, I exchanged e-mails with several women but there wasn't any spark between them and moi. It was right around the time when I started to feel like all that people wanted to do in cyberspace was hook up for sex purposes that I met my current girlfriend.

I answered her ad and we begun several months of e-mail prior to lenghthy phone conversations on love as well as on trivial stuff like whether mayo and french fries mix.

We met and hung out a few times. It was around the second time when we went to a bookstore cafe that we both realized something had developed beyond casual friendship between us. We talked about how we felt and our expectations and started to offically date. This September will be our two year anniversary.

I know of several people who have met online and have formed successful couples as well as lots of horror stories concerning psychos and people just looking for sex. My best advice is that one has to go with the gut feeling without being caught in the moment. If someone seems too good to be true, watch out, she might not be who she says she is. Get to know the person before making any kind of commitment.

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"Omnia Mutantur, Nihil Inherit (Everything Changes, but Nothing is Truly Lost.)"

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What a great discussion!

Postby jdcioffi » Tue Jul 30, 2002 8:52 am

Very cool -- I love this kinda stuff.



So, here's my story ...



My g/f and I met at work. Yes, work. At the time, she was temping in a department that worked very closely with mine. I called to ask about something, and when she didn't give me the right answer, I was a little ... uhm ... well, I didn't make a good first impression (and later, she even said she was scared to meet me face-to-face. :( )



But, we did meet. I went up to her office for something and (while I didn't apologize until a year later, :lol ) told her that she could call or IM me if she had any questions about the department and stuff.



I didn't think she would, but the next day she popped up with a simple "hey-low." We talked all day -- every day. Then we started going to lunch -- and talking on IM.



After about two weeks, my friend (who also worked at the same University) told me to invite her to hear my friends' band play. I didn't think she'd go b/c it was at a lesbian bar. She didn't even bat an eyelash when I asked ... :)



We had made a ritual of talking on the phone every night when she got back from her second job. She told me about her life in the Army as an Airborne/MP officer ... about her family ... and about her recent heartbreak via a female military officer. I was the good friend -- as I didn't really have any feelings for her yet -- and listened until all hours of the morning.



About two months into our friendship, I began the "crush" phase. We talked about it (how adult of me!) and she said she wasn't ready to date. Everyone already said we were dating -- as we spent every minute together or on the phone. It wasn't until December 25 that she relented and admitted we were dating.



We've been together almost 3 years ... and now this nice Jewish girl has a wonderful reason to celebrate Christmas. :)



JD











"I smell the smelly smell of something that smells smelly!" (SpongeBob Squarepants)

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Re: What a great discussion!

Postby AutumnT » Tue Jul 30, 2002 9:02 am

Met mine at a whitewater canoe club we were both members of.

Autumn

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Re: *sniff sniff*

Postby Broken hart » Tue Jul 30, 2002 9:08 am

I love these stories they remind me of how great it is too be in love. Unfortunately I'm all bitter on love at the moment.

I'm gonna prepare you this story mite bore you to tears!!!

But i met my first girlfriend about a year ago. It was when i was going through my whole "am i gay or not." Well i'd decided i wasn't and when out clubbing with some friends, but every guy who was coming up to me i was turning down. Any way my mate sue noticed this and asked what was up and i explained to her what i was going through, her first response was "but you can't you're too girlie!" A few weeks later i met this girl (donna) on line and we started to chat and she had my sarcastic sense of humor, it turned out she lived like 15 minutes away. So we started meeting to talk and we always sat on the same bench talking, it was really nice and i enjoyed every second we spent together and hated it when we were apart. About 2 months into our friendship she told me she had a girlfriend i was gutted but i hid it, i hated it when she'd talk about her it felt like someone had ripped my heart out. This was when i realized i had actually fallen in love with her. Although i wanted her like mad i didn't want to be the person to get in the middle. Some nite after having a lot to drink i told her i didn't want to see her any more and when she asked why i told her i was in love with her. We didn't talk for about 3 months, and that's when my granddad died. I was dying inside and i couldn't talk to any one, the person i would usually run to was Donna. Well one night i was sitting on the same bench crying and when i looked up she was there i just sat there crying in her arms for hours. I told her i was sorry for how i acted and then she sed (i always remember this) "no i should be sorry i should have been honest with you. i love you, i tried to pretend i didn't but my heart breaks with out you." cheesy i know but it did the job. We were together till about last month hence my name.!!

The heart was made to be broken.

Edited by: Broken hart at: 7/30/02 2:31:14 pm
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another story

Postby Tulipp » Tue Jul 30, 2002 9:09 am

It’s hard to resist this thread….



My girlfriend and I were actually set up. My female roommate was dating her male housemate, and we were the only lesbians they knew. So naturally, they thought it would be a kick to set us up.



We went out a few times, but we were both also pseudo-seeing other people, so it was mostly just friendly. (The kind of friendly that involves hugging and lesbian bars, but still…friendly). We connected right away, but sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint exactly where something begins, where it changes into something else.



I remember being at a bar with a bunch of people one evening in Philadelphia, and everyone was joking about the last time they’d gone on a real live actual date. I said that it had been awhile, and someone else at the table said “what do you mean? I thought you two were dating.” Power of suggestion? I don’t know.



But the next evening, we were in another bar (oh my, the theme of my twenties), and I was so….aware of her. The other people at the table seemed to fade away. When she dropped me off at the train station, she kissed me on the cheek, just a little kiss on the cheek, and the whole train ride home, I kept touching my face. It sounds silly now, but….



That was eight years ago.



And you know what? We haven’t seen those roommates in years and years.



Edited by: Tulipp at: 7/30/02 1:22:34 pm
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Re: another story

Postby Puff » Tue Jul 30, 2002 9:14 am

I meet my gf here :D At The Kitten board.



We were introduced by an amphibian friend *coughfroggyfrogcough* and against pretty huge odds managed to get together. Infact we have just celebrated our one year together anniversary. So I have extra reasons to be thankful for this board :)





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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby WiccansIllusion » Tue Jul 30, 2002 12:09 pm

From the sound of it, seems like we should set up a personals thread or something. Don't have a girlfriend..any ladies interested ? *waggles brows unobtrusivly*22..non-smoker. Kitten friendly ;)



Anyways thats the only way I can think of to not get myself all depressed on this thread. LOL

Tara nodded in agreement "She has magic fingers." Then, as though the words had just echoed back to her and sounded not at all right, she perked up and glanced around at the others. "On the keyboard."

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'My heart is cleverer then I and it knows what to do.'-MC Legends of the Kiss

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still more answers to the Q

Postby Bobos Mom » Tue Jul 30, 2002 1:50 pm

Lost In Ecstasy,



Good luck at school. I loved my college experience, and have many fond memories and dear friends from that time. Dating was easy in college. I never lacked in the love department then. My advice would be to take classes that interest you, get in touch with any lesbigay organizations that your campus offers, and keep your heart open. If you go in with the “I want a G/F!” vibe, you’ll miss out on a lot of wonderful people. I met my first college girl friend in a coffee shop. I had no idea she was gay, and she had no idea about me, but we struck up a friendship around coffee, and a mutual love of movies. The smooches came later. I met my second g/f in a Western Civ. class. I thought she was the smartest person I had ever met. She thought I was hot. Go figure. I guess what I’m saying is be who you are, and do what interests you, and you’ll meet women you’ll want to date, and who will want to date you, because you’re being true to yourself.



After college, it was a different story. I found the dating/bar scene distasteful, and more often than not ended up hanging out with my gay male friends instead. I started working for a gay and lesbian lobby that did community outreach because I cared about the issues. I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend. At the most, I wouldn’t have minded getting laid; the influence of my boys, and their fabulous, free sex lives. I met Colleen, my partner of nine years, at a training session I moderated. For me, it was lust at first sight. I looked over, and there was this classically beautiful, tiny, earnest woman, looking up at me with eyes that looked like they were made to hold sunshine. I started directing more and more of my comments to her as the session progressed in hopes that she would pick up on my interest, which in that moment, was weighed towards the carnal. One week later, we had our first date; for me, it was still all about the physical. Here was this beautiful woman. There we were in her apartment. She was wearing a dress. Dresses have easy access. What’s a girl to do? So I kissed her. Colleen’s memories of meeting are a little different. She tells me that she took no notice of me until she saw my eyes; up to that point she was still questioning elements of her sexuality and had come to the meeting not because she was a lesbian, but because she was a good liberal who cared about the issues. However, at one point in the session, I made eye contact with her because I thought she was so f*cking hot, and she thought “This is who I will spend the rest of my life with.” For her, our first kiss was all about forever. She’s stuck to this with resolve, and I love her for it.



Good luck with the future. You have many big sister kittens who will answer all questions you may have with interest and understanding. Always feel free to ask. :)



BM



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TARA: Willow and I always know how to find each other!

ANYA: With yoga?

Edited by: Bobos Mom at: 7/30/02 12:51:38 pm
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Re: where did you meet your girl??

Postby sparrow » Tue Jul 30, 2002 2:16 pm

Right there with you WiccansIllusion, what's a girlfriend? Read this whole thread, so many great stories. So, what's it like, really, to have a girlfriend? haha











And, yet, I just can't seem to care


I'm not coming back

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