I'm a sappy romantic. There. I said it. I do believe, with no scientific proof to back it up, that there is a such thing as a soulmate. Now, whether or not you will find that soulmate, that's another story.
I personally believe that souls are bound to each other in large groups. During different parts of your life, different souls will enter your life and do something significant. The thing may not be significant at the time, but maybe later on you'd realize what a life changing thing had happened all those years ago. Within that grouping of souls is the one who will fill you with love and all those good feelings; your soulmate. There are circumstances, however, where you may not recognize your soulmate for what he or she is. That's where the work notion comes in. Where you have to work on relationships. And sometimes this is what happens. But, most of the time, it's not.
That's where you have the general mate thing. Where you love each other and all that, but the electricity isn't there. And I believe there's absolutely nothing wrong with a general mate relationship. I think they're wonderful (theoretically, of course, since I've never been in a romantic relationship of any kind). And even necessary. We all can't hold out for our soulmates. What if we do pass in the night, not realizing it. Maybe it was your waitress whom you had a really good repore with last night at dinner. Sadly it's one of those things you'll never know unless it actually happens. Darn catch-22 thingies.
In conclusion: Soulmates exist, but odds are you won't find yours. So your general mate is perfectly fine. And no matter what mate you get, the relationship is going to require work work work.
Catie
"The purpose of life is not to be happy - but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make a difference that you lived at all." -- Leo Roston
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Talking to Jessica about sex is futile; she's gonna say No. Not because she's specifically saying no to sex, it's just Jessica's default mode to say No to *anything* which doesn't take place in Jessica's head" (and again, I can relate).
!) There's nothing wrong with waiting, just keep the faith and it will happen. I know that seems cliched, but I think there's an element of truth in it.
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I just about melted in a puddle of . . . well, let's not go there. 
[FWIW, she did a) know who I was talking about and b) thank me.] Not exactly the Smooth Operator, but what was I gonna do? (What I wanted to do, of course, was throw myself at her! 
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What do other Kittens do? Especially when, 9 chances out of 10, all this nubile flesh is being displayed by a woman who's gonna be (drat!) straight? 
[This question is principally addressed to other singles, but I'm sure some of you (lucky mo'fo') *partnered* Kittens get tempted by nubile flesh in all the wrong times/places, too.]
). But I'm mainly looking for validation 
Regale us all w/ tales of encountering those Too Sexy for this Earth, and what you did to keep from blowing a gasket (or maybe how you persuaded the object of your lust to join you in a mutual, um, "gasket-blowing"? 
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Maybe we can all come together 
) I should explain the situation.
) - in fact, the first person I told about my own sexuality. While I'm not very versed on the mechanics of relationships, I've been in love with him since September. Painfully so. And he doesn't have a clue about it. Plus, I guess there's the not wanting to spoil the friendship, but I can't stop thinking about him. It feels wonderful, but at the same time aches so badly.
. There is no shallow - ya like what ya like. Now go out there and find her(s) (hims) etc......
My ovaries are ready to jump out and rub themselves together. 
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