where did you meet your girl??

[pointystick]

You know I honestly believe that the fates took a liking to me, there no other explanation I can make. Last March, (01) my gf of four years left me. To say that I spent the next six months drowning my sorrow is an understatement. I had lost everything I had to live for so I basically stopped living. Finally I got into therapy which really wasn't fun but was totally necessary. Anyway this spring break, my therapist suggested that I take a vacation, just get out of town. I didn't want to go anywhere there were going to be lots of people (hate crowds). I basically picked Charleston, SC out on a whim. So I drove there (hate to drive). I got there and feeling all Miss Independent decided to go to the little bar across the street from the motel and have a drink. It was about 3:00 o'clock in the afternoon and the place was nearly deserted.I was sitting there and I heard somebody asking who was the owner of such and such car. It was my car. Thinking the worst, I walked up to the bar and there she stood. She had noticed my license plate (In TN, the county is shown on the plate) and school sticker and was curious about who I was. And that was that. As soon as We started talking, I knew. We've been together almost four months and every day is better. Why was she curious? Because we attend the same school (MTSU) have classes in the some of the same buildings and actually lived about a mile apart in Murfreesboro TN. Like I said the fates were smiling down on me!

[inVaDerZimz]

I've enjoyed reading this thread so much that I thought, what the heck I might as well chime in with my tale. I have never told anyone cuz I'm a total closet case, so I hope you kitties enjoy it.



I went to a rock concert when I was seventeen. I got to the venue early hoping to find a way to sneak backstage. My friend and I took turns scanning the backstage area for an entry point, but it was tightly guarded so we just stood around and watched the crowd. An eclectic mix of people passed by, some dressed up like the star of the show, when all of a sudden this drop dead gorgeous girl walks by with a drawing tucked beneath her arm. Being an artist, I was curious to see if she had any talent, besides it was a great excuse to go up to a stranger and obvious fellow fanatic.



As I politely asked if I could see her picture, she looked at me with the most beautiful eyes I'd ever seen and felt there was something special about her. Her drawing was amazing, it was obvious she was extremely talented so I asked her if she was going to pursue her talent in college and she said yes. I asked what college she was attending and to my surprise we had both received scholarships to the same school. So we exchanged numbers and decided to room together.



As we got to know each other better we realized that we had a lot in common. We both have fucked up families, didn't have much money, liked a lot of the same things, have the same wicked sense of humor and the same goals in life. Over the next few months, we grew closer and closer. That is where the lines between friendship and love became blurred and total confusion set in.



I met some great guys, the kind of guys that would make wonderful lifetime mates, but I knew deep in my heart that if I pursued them, I would be misleading them and misleading myself. Even though I didn't know if my then best friend would ever consider a romantic relationship with another woman (she is model beautiful and had guys drooling over her), I had to follow my heart and at least try to see if this was my destiny or I would forever be wondering "what if."



Freshman year ended, we were totally burnt out because it was so grueling and went home for the summer. Back then there was no internet so we exchanged letters through snail mail. She'd write me long letters and tell me how much she missed me, it was so innocent and romantic. Even though I felt something special for her, I was totally unaware that we were falling in love. Slowly though, it started to sink into my thick skull that I was falling in love with her and that maybe she was starting to develop feelings for me too. It was then that I finally realized that I loved her more than just a friend and that this was the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I wished I was a guy cuz I never thought someone so beautiful and feminine would ever desire a romantic relationship with another woman.



We found an apartment off campus our Sophomore year and were glad to be back together again. It was then that I knew there was something special between us and that she felt the same way too. It was still very confusing because neither of us had ever even though of having a romantic relationship with another woman, but it was exciting at the same time.



Slowly we progressed from "I love you," to holding hands, to cuddling. I would bury my head in her long blond hair and rest my head on her shoulder, inhailing the scent of her delicious flesh. I wanted to kiss her so bad, but the taboos that society had placed upon us kept us from taking that first intimate step.



Finally I couldn't hold back any longer and I kissed her, it was most incredible moment of my life at that point. It felt like electricity was runing through every cell in my body. She kissed and touched me like she was inside of my head and could read my mind, and it was then I knew that my heart had lead me to the right place.



I'm so glad that I took that chance eighteen years ago, she is still the most beautiful woman I have ever met in my life and I love her just as much today as I did the first time we kissed. Which is something I never would have imagined before I met her. Neither of us had ever thought of being with a woman, luckily we had the insight to see beyond gender and realize that what really matters is love.

[birdblue]

i hardly post on here, just a mere lurker, but I just wanted to say that you lot have filled me with hope yet again mucho with the smilies. I'm 17, never had a gf and can't help thinking sometimes that I'm never ever going to find the right woman for me. I've recently, as in two days ago, started talking to someone online who actually lives within an hours drive of me, which is amazing, but... well I'm the kinda person who gets way too excited and takes a few freindly conversations to be a sign that we'll end up together even though I don't know the girl... damn my life's a pain I s'pose I've always got uni to look forward too...

[Aduka]

I met my gf three years ago online at a Star Wars message board, we started out as friends. We soon exchanged email adderess and by Sept of 99 we where calling each other once a week.



Our friendship grew and in April of 2000 she came down to see me during Spring Break; after only a day and a half I knew I was in love. For the first time too and it felt great, that week we threw caution to the wind and got to know each other more in person. Odd how my parents never caught on to anything.



When Becky had to go back up to school I knew I was in love w/th her and we decided to keep our friendship going, just three weeks later I found myself at her school needing a place to stay while things cooled down w/th my parents(who had found out about us and threatned me). Those three weeks where a mix of bliss and horror(over my housing situation, it was seriously looking like the streets for me).



We parted after three weeks later w/th a promise to see each other soon, I was allowed to move back in with my parents and becky went to stay w/th her family for the summer. Shortly after returning home, her parents discoved that she'd met me online and her mom baned becky from having any contact w/th me(snail mail, email etc). Meanwhile my parents where putting me on a short leash, it was hell.



At the end of the summer Id saved up enough money to rent a room from a lady in town, so Becky moved down and paradise lasted only three weeks. Money was very tight, my parents where in denail and becky was recovering from flashbacks; so it was hard. But we dug in and kept going determined to stay together, it was hard but there where moments of fun.



In Feb of 2001 we moved in w/th my parents because our land lady had stolen my cell phone and Beckys medications, it was either that or live on the streets; so we picked the lesser of two evils. Living w/th my parents has been tricky but we've surivived.



Through everything, Becky has remainded by my side, she's been my only gf but I immediatly knew she was the 'one', not because of "true love" but more like true commitment, she's been willing to stand up to my dad on my behalf and risk living on the streets to stay w/th me.



We have plans to finish college and move out of state, start our lives on our own and make up for our early rock start.

-Sarah

"Ohana means family and family never gets left behind, ever." -Lilo

[scout03060]

I realize it has been several days since the last post on this topic but I am trying to not be such a lurker. I love this topic because I love my girl sooo much.



We actually met at an Al-Anon meeting back in ’92. I was by no means out at the time (especially since I was in the Air Force). I wasn’t even honest with myself about the fact that I was gay. But life has a way of bringing things to the surface and the attraction I had for Cindy was what was going to push me past my fear and actually act on all these feelings/questions I had been having for a couple of years (well actually a lifetime but really just started paying attention to).



Anyway, I saw her across the room and was very captivated by her. After talking with her (up close) I just kept thinking how much I liked her. How comfortable I felt around her and how much I wanted to spend time with her. And we did, spend time, all kinds of time. We are so different yet so much the same. She was really into God and trying to go straight. I was so not into God and apparently discovering I was gay. But there was no denying the attraction. One of my best memories was when she hugged me after a meeting in the parking lot and our cheeks touched… I swear my body was on fire. That electrical feeling you get in your chest and the flip flops your stomach does… I was blown away. Then of course came the first kiss. In my bedroom listening to whales singing (yes the creatures in the ocean). The tension was so heavy in the air. Finally, I said, “why don’t we just kiss and get it over with.” - Remember she is trying to go straight. Then I just remember leaning toward her and whispering “just let me” and we kissed. She hesitated at first but decided to respond. She has such soft lips. It was a simple kiss but I was hooked. Then she got scared and shortly there after she decided she couldn’t continue to see me and be straight so I did the only reasonable thing I could think of (at the time) and drank heavily for 3 days and played this really sad song over and over. But a love letter and much pursuing, on my part, and many ups and downs for both of us (since I was scared out of my mind at being gay) we have managed to survive and have been together for 9 years. She is my best friend and I love her dearly.



I hope this isn’t too long of a post since this is only my second post I am not sure of how long this will be.



Deanna

"With courage greater than your fear, jump into the unknown and you will fly!" - Author Unknown

[jensoncable]

Everyone ask me this and I always give them the same answer. It was fate. We both attended the same high school at the time. I was a freshman, she was a senior. As a freshman I had choices to make about which classes I would take. I was origionally going to take French, but decided for more of a challange so I chose band. My uncle had been in the marching band for several years so I decided to join right up in that too. I had just gotten into the marching band. She was already well established in it. She was the drum major. One day at the end of their practice, which the director had asked me to watch, she came up to me and french kissed me. In front of the entire band. She pretty much outed her and myself that day. We've been together for eight years ever since. I can't help but think about what would've happened had I chosen my first choice, French, over band.

[Eire Scully]

Wow, and here was I thinking that I was being totally original by meeting the love of my life online! I'm gutted!



Anyway, my baby and I met on the XF OS(thats the message boards of the official X Files site, to those non-Philes amongst you) and started IMing each other. We clicked, and 9 months later I travelled the 3,000 miles to go meet her(she lives in Canada, and I in Ireland) on Christmas Eve last year. On Christmas Day I said "I love you", she said it back and tada, here we are to this day!



Unfortunately, we're not physically together right now. After I came back home on New Years Day, I told my parents, friends, co-workers etc and Did Not Get One Single Bad Reaction. Wow, heh(and yes, I DID say that I live in Ireland). I went back for 2 weeks in April and she has just spent the past 2 glorious weeks right here in Ireland with me, she went back yesterday(oh there were tears!). Even my mum was crying, and Dad was close to it as well! But I hope to be able to move to Canada to be with her around October or so, just the messy legal paperwork crap remains. Oh, and money I'm saving for said legal paperwork crap



So, thats my story. I love my baby to bits and couldn't ever imagine life without her now. And, it has totally convinced me that Fate indeed exists, because of little things that all had to add up in order for us to be where we are today. Yay for Fate then, lol!

Feck!! Drink!! Arse!! Girls!!

[jeepchick scully]

I met my girlfriend online on Yahell. We got talking about ER and about Kerry and I was just like, "yeah I don't mind her being gay because I am too." Then it just went from there. We have been together for almost 2 years but she had to take a break a week ago Hopefully things will work out because I don want a new 'lesbian gay type lover.' Good luck in finding someone



Best Wishes,

Scully

[slayer747]

i have met her but i don't think she remembers my name. i have been talking about her in this board... well, i met her on campus and (geeze, a friend just peeked at my pc while i was typing...anyway) that was a year 1/2 ago, and i think i'm finally gonna approach her this week...



not much, eh?

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"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong, and those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie "Once and Again"

[Darcy]

I'm catching up on some of the threads that I missed over the past few weeks, and ran across this one. I was rather pleased to notice that it was started on day Corky (AKA Triscuit7/Melissa/mlis807) and I had our Vermont civil union, which was also our 18th anniversary.



As for advice: as many have noted, hooking up with the local LGBT group(s) is definitely a good place to start, but I would recommend following your interests. People you meet that way will have at least that much in common with you, and even if no one in that particular group pans out, they're the start of a network that may lead to something more. It worked for us, at least.



I met my first major crush (at least, the first one I recognized as such) through working in a lesbian/feminist bookstore while in law school, but nothing came of it. When I moved to Philadelphia after graduation (1979), I got a job with a feminist fundraising/canvassing organization while studying for the bar exam. One of the women there hooked me into volunteering with Women Organized Against Rape. I also checked out the postings at the local LGBT bookstore, one of which led me to the local women's softball league. I was too late to play, but I became a scorekeeper for the team sponsored by the local lesbian feminist group, Sisterspace. That led to my volunteering at their Lesbian Feminist Weekend in the Pocono Mountains. I highly recommend working registration at lesbian events, BTW - you get to know everyone's names and addresses, where they're staying during the event, and often whether they're or not they're available! Keeping score at women's sports events is also good, but all you usually get are names.



I met my first lover while working over Saturday night for Security. at the Weekend. Over the next few years I dated women I met through Sisterspace, softball, WOAR, and through women I met there. None of the relationships developed into anything serious, but I made a lot of good friends, and I sure had a lot of fun!



In 1984, Melissa learned about the Sisterspace softball team through Penn's LGBT group (see, campus organizations are good!), and we met when she joined. She volunteered to help me on the Weekend planning (I was heading up Budget & Finance at that point), so we got to spend more time together and got to know each other pretty well. We didn't get to move in together until the following spring when our respective leases were up, but we made a private commitment to each other on July 29, so that's been our anniversary date.



18 years later, I still get warm fuzzies when she comes into the room.

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I don't care if it is an orgy of death, there's such a thing as a napkin! - Willow in "Superstar"

[scout03060]

Darcy that is so wonderful. 18 years! Congrats! I can identify with the warm fuzzies. We are at 9 years and I can be looking at her and I'll get that tingle in my chest like when we first met. It only gives me hope that when we reach 18 years love can still be strong. As it is I light up when I turn the corner and see her car in the driveway. It kind of seems silly but most days I get home before her so it is nice when I get to come home to her.



Deanna

"With courage greater than your fear, jump into the unknown and you will fly!" - Author Unknown

[Nyxs Scifi]

My partner sold me a pair of shoes ... When our eyes meet I knew. That was 13 years ago and I was 20. And there has never been a dull moment in these past 13 years

After all we've been thru, good and bad, I consider myself blessed. I have seen too many of my friends who aren't so lucky and I have learned a few things from them.

. I do feel that in order to have a loving relationship, a person must first be able to love themselves. Respect and love yourself.. this will make it easy when it comes time to respect and love your partner/girlfriend. Like I said I have seen too many of my friends fall and become hurt/victims. I've come to believe a few things:

-. Love yourself

-. Repect yourself

-. agree to disagree

-. if you aren't respected in the relationship- get out

-. you are not a punching bag-if so get out

-. if your anger leads to violent out lashings- get help

-. "please" and "thank you" goes a long way and still holds weight in LTR .

-. Be considerate... especially if your going to be out late/or working late ..( I have a freind who didn't call her girlfriend when she was working late on a bad stormy night, and the girlfriend,thinking some thing was wrong, got in an accident(lived thank goodness) driving around looking for T. on flooded rain soaked roads.) sorry getting of track ... don't get mad T. one little phone call could have saved all of us alot of grief.

-. the laundries not done until its folded and put away.. sitting in the drier doesn't count.

-. Be happy with yourself don't depend on another to make you happy.

-. Sex and Making love aren't always the same thing

(even if they are achieved thru the same acts)

-. Be wary of selfish, self-centered people

-. making dinner does not consist of boiling the water for " cup of noodles "

Sorry forgot the true nature of this thread. Any way

Have Fun in college and don't give up hope.

[Triscuit7]

Well, Darcy already posted her side and said I should tell my side of things - if I wanted to.



1984 was my year to get back in touch with myself. I suspected that I was a lesbian way back in 1970 or so, but had the obligatory boyfriend thru junior high and high school. Less obligatory was the short-lived intense affair I had with my best female friend when I was a junior. What I learned: don't get involved with your straight best friend. In 1977 I finally broke up with the boyfriend, gave him back is ring and all. So then 1978 rolls around and I have lust in my heart for my new best female friend; this time it stays unrequited in spite of a really weird night spent on the floor of her boyfriend's fraternity. After graduating from WVU in 1980, I spent a year at university in England (Durham) and then came to Philadelphia in 1981 to attend UPenn. In 1982 I had yet another opportunity with a different straight best friend and still I behaved myself..... In 1983 I moved into a group house with 3 other women, all straight, and promptly had a crush on one of them..... Pattern anyone?



I decided that 1984 was the year to get back in touch with myself. I had a mission. I began attending the Penn GBLT group. Met some very nice women, all younger, all undergrads - all attached. But I attended a softball thing at the suggestion of one of them. And met a group of older women, one of whom was Darcy, and they recruited me to the recreational team that Sisterspace of Phila was fielding that summer. It was really cool, I was surrounded by lesbians, and except for being desperately seeking everything was great.



This is where everything gets surreal and I'll fill in the pieces that Darcy left out.



One of the LGBT undergrads was tossed out of her house by her parents. I gave her an empty room in the house to stay while she made arrangements to move. I mentioned this to Darcy and others on the team.



Darcy had been dating one of the team members, Mary, sort of casually, but then Mary got intensely involved with the team's catcher, Heather.



Darcy thought I was involved with this woman (even though I wasn't) and even though she had noticed me, she didn't say boo. Finally the woman moved out.



And oh yeah, I had this reaallly intense crush on Heather. BTW it's really dangerous to find out that the woman you've been mooning over is involved with another woman while the three of you are on a softball field during practice.... Fortunately the ball missed my head.



At about that time I mentioned at a team dinner that the woman had moved out and Darcy has since told me that at that point she was doing a happy dance inside.



Anyway I sort of volunteered to help her out with her budgetary duties for this big lesbian weekend thing that Sisterspace puts on.



And Heather (see above) was on another committee.... She was our driver on one of the organization's scouting missions to the campground. And to make the story shorter, it was Heather who more-or-less shoved me at Darcy, 'cause my love was being subtle, and it takes a softball thrown at my head to get my attention....



Conversation went sort of like this:

H (wearing reflective shades): Hey.

M: Hey Heather.

H: Y'know she really likes you.

M: Huh?

H: Darcy....really....likes you. (I think she nudged me)

M: She does?

H: Uh-uh.

M: Oh....ohhhhhh.



The following weekend Darcy and I dated intensively:softball game, dancing, Phillies game, dancing, helping out some friends with a big yard sale - we were in each other's company non-stop for close to 72 hours. 'Cause, hey Philadelphia, and being out late, and safety issues, so we stayed over at each other's places.



The 3rd night July 29 we made our private committment to one another:

D:so are you seeing anyone?

M:No, you?

D: Uh-uh. Would you like to?

M: Uh-huh. You?

D: Oh, yes.

M: good.



Romantic, we're not. We pretty much honeymooned in front of the TV during the 1984 Summer Olympics.



And well, the rest is history.



And yeah, I still have warm fuzzies for Darcy too.



Ciao, Melissa

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I brought marshmallows!

[Amymlc]

Melissa and Darcy,

I think your story is incredibly cute....and romance comes in all shapes and sizes, it doesn't all have to be wine and roses And congrats on being together for soooo long!!! I hope I am with my girl 18 years from now!!

They were right, I'm a homo--But I'm a Cheerleader

[Ittybittykitty]

Well me and Lisa met here on the kitten 8/01/02, and it's been going pretty good. I mean we talk, email, use the phone and read smut-he he he-I mean read value filled books online. (Although one cannot deny the value of a good peice of smut .)



But things are going really well and I just thought I'd post and tell everyone that she's the best thing to ever happen to me and that uhm...I will not sing that silly fluff song by David Cassidy, but I hum the lyrics all the time!

Shameless plug- Read my fic 7th Hellvan. It isn't half bad:)! "Innerbed".

Edited by: Ittybittykitty at: 8/19/02 12:47:37 pm

[KittyKo]

oh wow, such lovely moments... it makes my heart go all "awww". *^^*



i've met my girl last year. some friends prepared a meeting, with loads of people... and then she appeared, she was there, everyone noticed her, she is very charismatic, and hard to miss. =)

i was a bit on the defensive side, i didn't know her at all, and me being so reserved, it was odd to talk with someone that could make the world shake with such determination. turns out that i had talked to her online a few times.

at that time, i wasn't looking for someone... i was so into work that finding someone was not a priority... but has it turns out to be, life and fate walk alongside in misterious ways.



since she lives somewhat away from me, we continued to talk online, becoming friends, helping eachother and so on. we met in person again... and that time, things changed a bit.

having to say goodbye to her and not knowing when i could see her again...



one night, she declared her love for me... i was still defensive, didn't know what to do. but as it turns out, i was (still am, more than ever) in love with her. we are taking our days, meeting whenever we can, but since her parents are very religious and conservative, they cannot dream that she is dating another woman...



gotta love life. =) i'm so in love with her.

now i look back at that phrase "love is where you least expect it" and see it from another perspective, for at times, indeed it is so true.



*hug*

[AmberBensonRockzMyWorld]

HeHe...Awsome subject...My girlfriend and I met on this board, over on the Singles thread...We pretty much simultaneously e-mailed one another. All is going great with us, she means A LOT to me. We chat all the time, on-line, on the phone, through e-mail. She is wonderful.. . I'm so thankful for this board, 'Cos without it, I never would have gotten the chance to talk with her adn get to know her, and I wouldn't have an Amazing, Beautiful G/F. HeHe...She Posted here... She ROCKS! Now you all know how amazing she is. .

Much Love,

Lisa

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BTW...I now have that David Cassidy song stuck in my head...I swear everytime I see his name, "I think I love you" get's trapped in my little brain. It is a great song though. OH...Go read 7th Hellvan by IttyBittyKitty...It is such a great story. I ramble...I'm done.

Must I dream and Always see your face.~ Jeff Buckley "Last goodbye"
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Recomended Reading: IttyBittyKitty's fic...
"7th Hellvan"
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[informationjunky]

I met my girlfriend the old-fashioned way - picked her up in a bar.



I had just moved to the city after grad school four years ago, and went out my second week in town to the local gay club with a straight friend. Just when I was getting ready to leave she walked in, and I just knew she was the one I wanted to talk to. So I waited a few minutes until her friends went to the bar and she was alone, and then I went up to her and said "Hi I'm new in town and just wanted to introduce myself" and she was really shocked but polite and we talked for a few minutes and then she gave me her business card (we're both marketing execs) and told me to call her, and I left.



I called her the next day, we had a date the next weekend, and that was it - four years later we have a house together with a dog.



BTW I met my grad-school girlfriend in a bar, too (different town). We were the only two femmy-ish women in the bar, and I sat down next to her and told she was pretty brave to bring a purse in this chain-wallets-only bar, and we got to talking, exchanged phone numbers, and dated for a year after that.



So despite the fact that women almost never hit on one another in gay bars, it CAN work.

[DaNzS]

Hi wonderful kittens! Newbie here!



I met the love of my life in the old Charmed Board(the one hosted by the old safesearching). the first time we met it was an instant connection. for almost 8 months, we've been the best of friends, we email each other at most 20 times a day, we talk in ICQ til the wee hours in the morning. She's my lucky charm. When i met her i was a newly grad, then i officially started my first job on her birthday, on the same year i met her. She got so addicted with me (and im sooooo adicted with her) that talking online is not enough, so we started talking over the phone. We will talk almost every night and 3 hours can never be enough, the progress of our relationship can be identified by the names we call each other. At first we will call each other by our names, then we became sisters, then she became my baby and i became her angel, after that we added the word dar(short for darling) on baby and angel, making her my dar dar baby and me her dar dar angel, up to now, being with her for almost 2 years, we never call each other by our names, coz there are about a hundred sweet names that we can call each other. some are the common ones and the others we invented them. :P She lives in a country 3 hours away(*by plane) from me but has to study in another country 8 hours away from me. We have been lucky enough that we were able to meet each other in person, she will visit me here or i will visit her place and stay for about a month. they say that long distance relationship doesn't work, our love for each other will prove that this is not true.she's the love of my life, the only one for me and i know she's the reason i am alive.

[engtchr]

Gee, I feel lucky when I say I met my girlfriend online, but she only lived 8 miles from me! Now, almost two years later, we're 9 weeks pregnant and loving life!

[wannabebad2]

It sounds stupid and slightly scary, but I met my sweetie on the internet. I was hesitant at first, but I didn't know any other way to go about finding a girlfriend. I heard about a "dating service" called Planet Out. I just went to http://www.planetout.com, signed myself up, and looked in the personals. I was looking at this one profile for a while. After getting up enough courage, I wrote her a e-mail. We talked for a while. Then, she showed up on my doorstep on my birthday with a dozen roses from the florist. Great way to make a first impression. We will have been together for 11 months as of Sep.25th. It worked for me.

[nika]

What a great thread. Some of the replies have really put a big smile on my face.



I met my girl at really complicated time in my life. I had just ended a really bad relationship with a woman. I was drinking heavily and partying hard. I also had a boy friend who seemed to be falling in love with me when all I wanted was a whole lot of nothing.



I was at a straight club when a gay friend came up to me and asked me if I would like to go to a gay disco with him and some other people.



I said sure and there she was. Absolutely gorgeous.

We hit it off right away, but she kept avoiding making direct eye contact. When I asked her about it she said I made her really nervous. I said something original like " Oh really?" And leaned in to kiss her. We spent the night together and I thought that would be that.



I asked her if she wanted me to call her or just leave it at that. She answered simply: "Please call me, if you want."



I really didn't want to complicate my life any further. I thought it was an affair at best. She knew better though.

She later told me that from that first night, she started imagining our lives together. *Lol* I was so clueless.



Anyhow that week I sent a bouquet of Yellow roses. The card read 'from a secret admirer' I really didn't want to fall in love, I fought against it, really I did. But alas and Thank God it was useless. She broke me down, tamed that wild side but good. And guess what? I'm happy that she did, she led me out of a very dark road that I was beggining to walk on. We've been together for 7 years. I still look at her like she's the most beautiful girl in the world, I still want her like that first night and I do think I got lucky in life.

[circular reference]

My partner, Kristina, and I met on the Internet over 11 years ago in Nov 1993 -- she lived in NY, I lived in CA. We were best friends for the whole 11 & in love the entire time, but unable to really see how our lives could possibly fit together. Then we decided that this was ridiculous and that we couldn't live without each other, admitted we were both MADLY in love, & that we belonged together forever. And now we've been married for 5 years and are expecting the birth of our first child around April 1, 2003. We finally registered as Domestic Partners in CA on Jan 23, 2002. Kinda sappy, I know, but she was just my soulmate. What could I do?? hee hee...

--CR
"Hold the fire, I'm coming in."

[Taz]

In Utah of all places, then they kicked us out.

[starlitefaeriegrrrl]

In a Couche-Tard which is like a 7-11 but they are in Montreal. My best friend and I went to go get sugar-rushed and he started talking to this cute girl at the cash (she was buying a slurpee and lifesavers berrie gummies). When we left she was outside, right outside, and she'd stopped to have a cigarette (which I later learnt was so she could continue checking me out *swoon*). He said bye and then I asked who it was. He said her name was Kenda and that he worked with her. I said, "She's cute!" And he said, "She's straight!" And then I was bummed.



Some months later I joined the gay club at school with him, because he and all the rest of my friends (except for one straight girl) were gay boys, and sometimes a girl just needs to be able to talk to another girl about the hotness of yet even more girls. I met this one guy and we'd go for cigarette breaks together. One day we went outside and he exclaimed "there's another lesbian I know!" And I didn't care, expecting her to probably be butch (not my type, no offense) since I seemed unable to find single non-butch skater girls (my type, usually) Then after a bit his lesbian friend came by and it was Kenda.



I recognized her, spazzed and begged him to set us up. Less than a week later, she signed my guestbook on my website and we emailed for a few days- she told me that she'd teach me how to skateboard, I enthused about how I also loved the band Hole and eating french-fries *rolls eyes*. We met and once we did we didn't go more than a day without seeing each other.



A week exactly from the day we met I told her that I had "something really really dorky to say" and then stammered for five whole minutes before spitting out "I um, kinda, like you". I pretty much started staying at her place every weekend (and I had my own set of keys our third week), then all Christmas break, then I moved in after four months. Now it's ten months and twelve days.



So strange that she's the same girl from the Couche-Tard.

[Sweetjane]

hey birdblue , i just wanted to post to say that i know just what you're feeling , and i am in much the same position , only i'm lucky because i leave for Uni in 10 days .



it all seems very bleak ,i know it can feel quite impossible , hell! i'm only a year older than you and here i am trying to be the eternal matriarch ...



anyway , things work out! they have to , damn it......



can i just say , all the other wonderful posts in this thread have made me feel all warm and contented , i'm so happy for you all.

"....we got high on travel and we got drunk on alcohol , and on love , the strongest poison and medicine of all" - Joni Mitchell

[lelak]

McDonalds! *g*



There's a longer story to it than that, but it's not as funny.

[Verbena]

I met her in school. We were both 13, and we rapidly became best friends.

At 15, we figured out our reciprocal feelings, but we just stayed friends in a very platonic way (god, we were so scared).

2 years later, we decided that this relationship could work, and that was over with the platonic thing...

So, you see, it's been a long, cautious (and somehow painfull) way to build this relationship, but all this time to fugure all out was worth it : it's 11 years since we became a couple (our 'birthday' was last saturday ^_^), and we are still deeply in love.

Please remember the Buffy Season 5 lesson : "Do not mock small blonde women. They may be Gods."

[zillee]

Hey this thread is so great I love reading everyones storys, makes me smile and feel semi normal! So my story, I'll try and shorten it a bit. (The extended version including all the crap I went through is posted in Coming out issues)

I met my Gf at Uni, I met her thro her housemate who was my first friend and on on my course. I got to know her better when I swapped my major at the end of the first semester and we started working together on both our major and minor subjects. At the end of the year we were really good mates and it turned out that she was going to move into the same building as me. All of my best mates lived together me upstairs in flat 7 and them in flat 4 so we kinda lived together for two years. My gf Alex had a bf at the time and it was a long messy relationship she split up with him for a bit in our 2nd year and started seeing a canadian, then they got back together then she snogged another guy on our course but she still didn't split up with him, until me that is!

My friend used to tease me about liking her (after I had come out.)and I denied it everytime coz she had a boyf and I tried not to form attachments to straight girls who were my friends. funnily enough my Alex's bloke said I the same thing to her and secretly she was having fantasys about me Tee hee

A couple of days before Graduation we went to our friends Jeanette's 21st and it was an awesome party at her house. We danced all night long. And I was so checking her out (shes so sexy olive skin, dark hair and smooth chocolate eyes. ) and doing sexy dancing with her. We went to bed a about 4am and four of us were sharing two single beds pushed together so I paired up with her. The first night was fine none of us could sleep so we chatted and joked about. The next day everyone left apart from me my gf and one of our flatmates, we helped jeanette clear up. In the evening we sat down had tea and watched the lion the witch and the wardrobe, a BBC screen adaption a few years back. Eventually we trundled off to bed three of us still in the one/two bed so I snuggled up with Alex. I slept until 3 then I woke up and started fidgeting. Alex woke up too and put her arm round me, then I started sweating, I had this overwhelming desire to kiss her, I was starting to tremble so I started saying to myself 'go back to sleep think about the Lion the witch and the wardrobe', and then I kissed her and she kissed me back. While my friend was in the bed next to us, she knew what was going on but didn't say anything! Tee hee! It was mindblowing so much so that I was trembling all night long, and kissing all night long. I knew that I loved her right at that moment in time. I never thought I'd find love, I was 21had never had a relationship and I was a strict Christian trying to go straight. We had to go through a lot of crap after that first kiss (see my post in coming out issues!) but we are still together now a year on and I know I want to be with her forever. its funny how life changes you. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and not put limits or boundaries on Love. One of my favourite quotes is 'in dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.' because its true.

Love to all the Kitties

Zillee

Try it you might like it but you might smudge your lipstick - Jarvis Cocker - your sisters clothes

[alyamber4ever]

Where did I meet my girl?? I haven't met her yet!!! Would someone let me know if you see her??.

Edited by: alyamber4ever at: 9/12/02 2:37:33 am