Long distance relationships

[sam darls]

Emms, thank you so much for those amazing words..it is so hard, but I know that it will make us both stronger , and also I'm going to see her in september for 5 weeks , god..I can't wait . I love you baby . Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

[3peanuts]

Yay! I'm gonna see her on the 19th. Argh, this means that we spent precisely two months and a half without seeing each other...



I agree with the phone thing: there are really times you'd like to slam the phone and go hug your dog like a cry baby.



It's difficult to talk to someone you miss and fake it's okay not to see her or touch her while she talks about a shitty day, when everything you'd like to do is snuggle, brew some tea, and massage her feet.



Most of all, I hate those nervous calls, when somebody says something that needs a facial expression to be understandable, but you can't see each other, and she says: "I don't know how you feel, if I can't see your face."



It's so damn frustrating sometimes. And nights out with friends who do the snuggle-fest in front of you, and you feel so lonely, and your arms feel so empty, even emptier than how they felt when you were single.



But it definitely is worth it. I guess the most positive aspect of a relation like this, is that basically you get to know each other's emotional life very deeply very quickly. Dinstance makes you more sensitive, more open, more ready to listen and recognize the apparently insignificant changes in her voice, her upset coughs, the slight trembling in her voice when you say "I love you".

You learn to feel that she misses you the way you miss her: this makes you feel more loved, more desired, and somehow this forces you to love her more. Because when you can feel (with every fiber of your body) that you are loved, it's hard to deny your smile, your participation, your sympathy, your whole life, and waste time arguing or quarrelling about something that doesn't even deserve attention.



You learn the meaning of the word "gift", in an incredibly profound way.



Am I making any sense?



Hugs. -R-

"I like Amber Benson 'cause she's a proletarian" Sarabiga

Keynes was right

[justkazy]

Wow i'm so touched by everyone's words. They are all so true..the distance makes it all more real and so important. I thank the god(esses) everyday that i have her in my life and it seems like a cruel joke sometimes that i can't be with my soulmate now. I know when i see her in September that i will fall in love with her all over again. I will treasure every second we have together and pray for the next time i will be able to see her again. Emms thank you for sharing your story, it reminds me alot of my baby and me's. Well you see she kinda turned me out as well..hehe That first time she emailed me, i knew she was someone specal and that i wanted to get to know her better...so here we are 8 months later and i don't reget a single second.



*Baby thank you for much for taking a chance with me..now i know what really love is I love you too, with all my heart *

"I'd cry..i would die if i lost you"-Alex Parks...I love you, baby!

[sam darls]

Baby, I just read your post..and it made me cry ..happy cry of course . Thank you so much. I love you so much..so so much, with all my heart too . Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

[willowsgirl]

Hey

OK Cass will probably kill me for this (sorry baby!) but it just seemed like a sign that this thread got bumped up on our 6 month anniversary *grins*

Reading and re-reading all your stories reminds me how lucky I am to have my girl in my life, and how things *can* work out, even when youre on the other side of the world.

Just 8 months ago we were two kittens flirting on each others fics

7 months ago we met and instantly bonded, becoming the kind of friends who find it so natural to tell each other anything and everything.

6 months ago we finally gave in to all the other kittens who insisted that we werent just friends, and we realised that we did indeed have feelings for each other.

6 months later we are still together, still completely in love, and in just a few months time she'll be moving from singapore to UK to study, and Ill be right there with her.

Long distance relationships can be so hard, and I totally understand what everyone else on this thread has said before, but it is *so* worth it. I love my baby with all my heart, and I know this is for always

Good luck to everybody else!



Stacey xx



PS. Sappiness over, sorry kitties!

[sam darls]

Stace..sappiness is good..hehe . You are definitely right, long distance relationships are so worth it . Good luck to you and cass, and happy 6 month anniversary . Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

[Stroke of Luck]

I´m in a long distance realationship too! but i dont have the problem with the time difference. My hunny is just living 1 hour in front of me. So this is my Q!

how do u do it with such a big time difference. Isnt one of u always tired etc. How much time do u have to talk to ur gf?

I just know that its even hard for me and my baby and we dont have such a problem. We`re having "just" the army which is taking our precious time away, but normly she is coming back home every weekend. Just once a while we wont see each other for nearly 2 weeks, but our luck, we both have cellphones

I wish all kittens the best and all the love in the world, might their love never fade away.



Cu

SoL/Natti



ps. wish Sam and October lots of fun and for how long havent u seen each other, if i am allowed to ask

"I wish that you were here or that I were there, or that we were together anywhere!"

Edited by: Stroke of Luck at: 6/10/04 9:57 am

[sam darls]

Natti..hey sweetie..To answer your question, for us, with the time difference..well, it isn't that bad, she's only 5 hours behind me..and I still get to talk to her everynight before I go to bed, but yeah, some nights I just wish the hours would be less, so we'd have more time..more time to talk about anything and everything. I guess if you really love that person, the difference shouldn't matter..but yes it can be very hard. And yes..lots of fun to be had thanks hun and of course you're allowed to ask..we haven't seen each other since february 26th this year and I'm not going to be seeing her until september 2nd . Wish you and Anat the best too sweetie . Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

Edited by: sam darls at: 6/10/04 12:32 pm

[SJ]

I can relate to what everyone has said also the about facial expressions thing,know exactly what you mean.

I've been in a long distance relationship for 15 months now and cause of the 6 hour time difference we don't get to talk as much as we'd like.

[dragon]

this is my first post here but the subject was familiar i had to reply

me and my sweetie lived on different continents she was in germany and me in the mid east.

we met online after she'd sent me an email about a fanfic i had written and after that we kept intouch. i liked her felt something strong but kept in denial until we started to chat for hours and hours at night, we sent our piccies to eachother etc. it was beautiful. then she decided to come, and of course she stayed with me, in my bed since she was a girl my dad was like " i don't see where the problem is, she can come" i was lmao.

so she came in august and we spent the best 12 days. after that i was supposed to go to germany in january but i couldnt, it was hell , we almost gave up but we loved eachother, so we were patient for 10 months before i could visit her again, i spent a month in germany in july.

i had always wanted to return to canada for my university studies BUT

in september i moved to france, which is much closer of course not knowing the german language i couldnt go to uni in germany either but since i speak french i chose france.

and now we see eachother as frequently as we can, since we both have our uni and all, she's in her last year now, and next september she's moving here with me



it just needs alot of patient, but if you two love eachother then u will make it, i am sure...

[Stroke of Luck]

Hey Sam! thx hunny



Yeah i remember the good old times when Anat wasnt in the army and we had every night for ourself. we talked sometimes till morning and i just had 1,5 hours sleep, but i loved those days *sigh* now that she is gone to the army we just have the weekend well more friday and saturday to talk. its not easy but i just visited her so its ok....and in september or so i wanna visit her again How many hours do u have to talk to octover, sam? i mean if she is 5 hours behind, than there will be just 4-5 hours or something, not much at all U 2 have my respect *bows* and i thought that my relationship is hard, tz something u can be so wrong. in every hard situation i think about all those kittens/ppl who r having a LD relationship and the time difference, and well what can i say, it worked



@dragon

wow 10 month geez i bet that was hell on earth. i normaly had to wait 7 month to see my girl again, but me and her couldnt wait, so i tryed everything to visit her (i stayed 12 days) and well i was there 2 weeks ago.

Good luck to u and ur girl



Cu

SoL/Natti

"I wish that you were here or that I were there, or that we were together anywhere!"

[sam darls]

Hey Natti..mmm, we have about an hour or an hour and a half to talk when she gets home form work, but then I have to go to bed and get up early for work the next morning but if I'm not at work then we talk for longer. Also she calls me during the night, like at 2am and we talk..sometimes it's for four hours straight, until the sun comes up here. But I know, it's still not enough. Thank you sweetie . Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

[MzKitty24]

I'm a total newbie who's been lurking but I gotta say awwwwwwwwwww at you guys. I'm so jealous!! best of luck

new sig coming soon

[ohtrustysodamachine]

Me and Vero have been together for 4 months now and I can honestly say that I have never met anyone like her. We started talking in the Kitten and from the very first second I fell inlove with her.

My friends have been giving me the occational bit of grief and ask me ''How can you fall inlove with someone you've met online and haven't even seen?''....I just think to myself that if they *did* speak to her then they'd fall inlove with her too and be just as wrapped as I am. i hate when they tell me that coz we've met online that our love cant be 'real'

It's hard for both me and Vero coz she lives in Spain and im in England but we both respect that we have other things going on in eachothers lives and we keep apart so we can do our everyday things, I know that if we stick together through the lonely times and heart ache then I know that our dreams of future bliss will finally come our way



I love you baby and i wanna be with you forever, your the other half of my soul



Love and kisses

Jess



Quiero Verte Danzar- My babys horny song lol

Edited by: ohtrustysodamachine at: 6/12/04 12:48 pm

[Willowtara19]

Awwww baby that's just the sweetest thing someone's ever said to me....*melts*



Yup, we've been together for four months now.....the happiest four months of my life....*grins* which are about to come five, next week



I think the hardest thing for us, and every couple of kittens that live a long distance away from each other, is when you just want to be right next to her, hold her, tell her everything will be alright.....help her make her feel better when she's feeling down....but still, when you're in love, no matter how hard it is, you make it through it....



I love you too, baby, with all my heart....with time and patience we'll eventually get our dreams, sweetheart....I've never met anyone like you either....you're one of the best things in my life and I want to be yours forever....







Vero (aka Willowtara19)



PS: Oh I also wanted to wish the best to all the kittens with their girls...specially to Cass and Stace and Sammi and October

"The heart rules the mind" Alison Krauss, That kind of love

"Baby, I'm too lost in you, caught in you, lost in everything about you, so deep...." Too lost in you (Sugababes) Mine and my baby's song....I love you so much, baby

Edited by: Willowtara19 at: 6/12/04 2:22 pm

[Stroke of Luck]

Quote:

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My friends have been giving me the occational bit of grief and ask me ''How can you fall inlove with someone you've met online and haven't even seen?''

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Thats why i told them that i met a nice girl, but i never meantioned that i am in love....well as much in love as u can get with an "unknown" person that u never met....so when my baby flew to germany and visited me, still than it took us a week or so when we said those 3 words. But when i said (i was the first of both of us) I love u, she broke down in tears. But still some of my friends r having a problem with the fact, that she is from Israel and me from Germany. They are having no ID how strong love can be and that no matter what, i will wait for her. Even my parents are like:" well she is living abroad and no one knows that u have a gf, so u are still single for them!" tz but i am not single. sure i dont scream it out into the world, that i am having a gf (cuz i live in a lil city) but still she is MINE and if someone cant understand that, well than he/she has to fuck off..Just cuz i am having a special relationship, that doesnt mean that its not as strong as the "normal" ones. in fact those long distance relationships are stronger than any normal relationships, cuz u talk about more stuff



My baby and me are 8 month together, in 6 days it will be 9 and i can say, that i never had a better life than now. Ani ohevet otach hamon buba sheli (that was hebrew btw)



Hmm ok i hope i made any sense, its early here and i am still sleepy and my english was never the best



Cu

SoL/Natti

"I wish that you were here or that I were there, or that we were together anywhere!"

Edited by: Warduke at: 6/13/04 8:52 am

[justkazy]

It's so great to know that Sam and i aren't the only couples having to deal with time differences and the separation. I do wish that our time difference wasn't so far apart. I feel so guilt sometimes calling my baby in the middle of the nights but being as we are both still living in our parents homes..at least that way i get her all to myself And the fact that she has a cell phone makes it that much easier, and i'm going to be moving into my own house(hopefully )by the end of this month..so yay! I just wish that we could be together now and not have to worry about phones, computers and the like.



It's all worth it thro..i wouldn't change how we met or how we fell in love..it's made it so much more real and so incredible She is everything i've ever wanted and i can't wait to spend my life with her. I know it's going to be difficult a times, but that's what makes it so special and true



And to everyone out there who's been told that "meeting" someone over the internet and falling in love, isn't real..just take these stories some of the kittens have shared with us. It does happen and it is real and no one can take that away. If you and your partner are really in love then everything will work out, because you both want it more then anything this world has to offer



*I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BABY! You are my everything and i can't wait for you to back in my arms..mmmm *







ps. thanks for all the warm wishes and good lucks..you guys rock! I hope all of you the same

"I'd cry..i would die if i lost you"-Alex Parks...I love you, baby!

Edited by: justkazy at: 6/14/04 6:10 pm

[SySnootles]

I'm only 12 days away from finally being able to hold my baby in my arms...



Long distance relationships are hard, but are very much worth it. I fell in love with my honey over seven months ago, and we've managed to keep our relationship fresh and even let it grow with long phone calls, e-mails, and online chats. It's absolutely possible to fall in love with someone you've never met face-to-face. It's just as real as if she were right here in front of me. In fact, I think meeting online helped our relationship. We were forced to learn things about each other in a very real and, oddly enough, naked way. We weren't able to hide behind clothes or other friends or odd circumstances. We had nothing but our conversations to cling to, and it's been wonderful.



It hasn't been all hugs and puppies. There are times I wake up in the middle of the night longing to hold her, or be held. And I wake up just a little bit more and realize that she's over 1700 miles, one time zone, and one whole country away. Those are the times when I'm lonlier than I ever was when I was single. But I know she's thinking about me, and that makes it a little bit better. I fall back to sleep, dreaming of my beautiful girl and counting the days until she's in my arms...



Which as of right now is 12. So I sit here, patiently waiting for two weeks to pass... It's not easy, but it's certainly achievable. And it's very, very real.



Editted because I can't count.

Catie



When I'm 130 years old, I want a pill that makes me so happy and so unself-conscious and so randy I'm willing to make love to my fuzzy bed slippers on my front lawn and yodel at the same time. -- Scott Adams from Dilbert and the way of the Weasel

Edited by: SySnootles at: 6/13/04 11:40 pm

[effrena]

I´m together with my gf for 40 months today, and more than 2 years we had a long distance relashionship. we keep seeing each other about every 3 to 4 months for some weeks.

i kind of got used to it, if that is possible. but you know what i really, REALLY hate in such relationships? when one of us is sick! like i am right now! i just want someone to cuddle up with me, (or punsh me unconscious) till it`s over!

and when my gf is sick i can`t stop calling and worrying. i wanna take care of her! tuck her in, make her soup, run her hot baths, the whole program! but no!

anyway, hopefully only one more year like this, and then we`re finally able to move together again!

i wish every kitten the best luck with their relationship, and that they can see each other soon! for a long time! (and hope they get never sick!)

Can`t we not suck anymore?! Ellen DeGeneres

Edited by: effrena at: 6/14/04 1:37 am

[intricate mirage]

Hey y'all



Hey baby I just read your post *heart melts* There's so much I want to say now, to just start ranting about the very first time I received your reply to my post on your fic to how amazing this morning was to hear your voice before I went to work, but all I want to say right now is, I love you Stace, with all my heart We're for always love



Sam & October - Mucho hugs, love and luck going out to both of you Rock on you two



To all the other kittens - Good luck and as my baby said, yep, this is so worth it, don't ever give up on it, it's hard, but as me and my baby always believe, as long as you've got each other, everything will be ok



Cass xx

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My whole life I've loved only one person, that person was you

Edited by: intricate mirage at: 6/15/04 3:27 am

[sam darls]

Hey Cass..thank you so much hun . I wish you and Stace so much love and hugs. And thank you baby, I love you so much ..Love sam xx

"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong. And those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie Sammler (Evan Rachel Wood)

[Yelowsub]

awww. Much love and happiness to all the long distance kittens.

"Trying to talk about love is like trying to dance about architecture."

[kivrin]

hey!
I'm living far from my girl too. we live on the same country, that's true but with me being just 16 it's hard to travel to her city, she uses to come to my city more often, but "often" means once in 3 months...or even once un half a year. it's hard, very hard. we've been friends since 3 years ago but this last year our relationship deepened if more was possible. I want to tell you all that this situation has helped me to grown up but it was extremely difficult and we were just separated for 8 hours by train well and....almost 80 euros so we couldn't afford seeing each other frequently.
however the next 5th of july is our first aniversary!!!!
I don't know if we'll get to live together 'cause her mother won't hel her paying her studies if she moves here with me...so it could keep us apart for some time more and I don't know if we could cope with two years more living like this.......but now it just feels ok to wait for it and pray for her to come and visite me and to save money to visite her. she always says that wondering what will happen hurts our future.
good luck you all....love is always possible....and always good.

[SithLordWiccan]

I've been in a relationship with a woman for the past four years now, and we really love each other. We've exchanged letters and other things, called each other on the phone and we've come to be open and honest with one another.

The problem is that she lives in Germany, and I live in Canada. When my parents first found out about our relationship, they were against it, thinking that my love was someone dangerous. But they've come to accept it.

But even if they didn't, it wouldn't matter. We love each other.

[notl33t]

Kudos to those people who've posted about there long distance relationships. My currently no-distance relationship is about to change in a year to a long distance one, but only for a year. I'm very scared that my girlfriend and I will ruin our relationship this way, but we both need to get our Master's degrees and for her to get her music one, she needs to go away to England for a year. *gulp* But everyone who has posted in this thread gives me a lot of hope. *hope hope hope*

[MagicPancakes]

Its awesome to see so many other people that have been through or are going through the long-distance thing because I was always the only person I knew that ever dated anyone long-distance. I met my girlfriend last summer and we kind of made it official in October, right after I turned 19. I live in Philadelphia and she lived in Greenwood, IN, which is about 20 minutes south of Indianapolis. We took advantage of my cell phone's free long distance and free minutes after 9 and on the weekends, and we IMed constantly, e-mailed any time we could, and the only time we weren't talking was when I was at work. I would still call her during the day and ended up having $300-$400 phone bills every month just from talking to her. In November she bought a bus ticket to come see me and she stayed at my parents' house with me from Saturday morning til Monday afternoon, when I had to drop her off at the bus station and watch that stupid bus pull away knowing that we wouldn't get to see each other any time soon. I think that trip is what really made me fall in love with her because I had been hurt so bad before that that I was really cautious about getting into another relationship...EVER. I was completely done with trying to be with anyone because every time I got into a relationship the person was either a liar or a cheater....or a user.

So in December, I had a week off from work for Christmas and the new year, and I used that time to go visit her in Greenwood. The furthest I had travelled from home was Atlanta when I was 4 and I didn't remember it, and the furthest I had been on a bus was DC, and I had never travelled anywhere alone before. It was a 15 hour bus ride but it was worth every second of that ride to see her fly out the doors of the Indianapolis bus station and into my arms. I love travelling now. I spent December 28-Jan 1 in Greenwood, and got back on the bus to come home at around 1 AM on Jan 2nd....got home around 5 PM on Jan 2nd and went to work on the 3rd. It was the most amazing experience of my life...

She came back to Philly by bus for her birthday in February and it was during that visit that we started planning to move in together. She moved to Philly from Indiana to be with me. It took me almost three months but FINALLY I found a landlord that would rent to us. We are both 19 so we had a really hard time finding people that would trust us as tenants...but we moved in together on May 5th and my life is so amazing now..I never thought I'd be out of my parents' house and on my own at 19 but here I am and I've never been happier in my life.

I wish you and your girlfriend all the luck in the world, that is a far trip to make to see each other but love always finds a way. It takes time and money and its complicated and frustrating but if its worth it to you then it will happen. NEVER GIVE UP!!!

[Gatito Grande]

that is a far trip to make to see each other but love always finds a way. It takes time and money and its complicated and frustrating but if its worth it to you then it will happen. NEVER GIVE UP!!!

emily, you'll never know how much I needed to hear this, today.

GG ::: winks in a certain long-distance direction ::: Today. This forgotten-for-2-years thread popped up today. Ironic, no? Out

[MagicPancakes]

GG, I'm a hopeless romanantic and I'm one of those people that really does believe that love transcends ALL, even seemingly-impossibly-to-overcome distances...It might take time, but no matter what if it is meant to be it will happen.

[LtSticks]

Hmm, long-distance relationships are a mixed feelings thing for me. Yay on the Kittens that have met people online and fallen in love, I like that even being on perhaps different countries/continents, people can connect and find something special.

My badness feelings come from the disaster of a relationship that my first gf and I had. We met online, and though I live only an hour from where she did, I guess it was sort of a long distance relationship (or a medium distance, lol)

We didn't experience some of the problems LDRs have, like being able to go and see each other - we had trains/buses, but the easier access was balanced by the total emotional abusive nature of it, and pretty much I've been unable to trust people since, and had a total breakdown :(

I thought that I would feel that I would have a more cynical attitude toward relationships afterward, but reading the posts on here of how Kittens have fallen for each other...well, it brings back the romantic in me

*does the happy dance of Romantic Idealism*

~Emma

[Candleshoe]

the total emotional abusive nature of it

Excuse me for asking, Lt, but was that because of the long-distancey nature of it? Or would it have happened even if you had lived closer?

I don't mean to pry, but I'm curious...